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writes:This guy texted me about two weeks ago, wishing me a belated Happy Birthday. He had previously invited me out to lunch, so in this text he said he would be in touch soon to see when we can both get together for said "lunch". We are both very busy, he has just started a new job (which from what I understand has got him working all hours) and I have similar circumstances. In contrast, I make time to text him back (at least a couple of days after he text's me), and if I say I will be in touch soon to someone, it would normally be within the next week or two. I really like this guy, and we have always got on really well (flirting a lot, and joking about) but I have always thought that when a guy likes a girl he would move mountains (so to speak) to be with her, and he just doesn't seem to be doing that. What I want to know is, do I text him asking if he is all right, or do I do nothing? Do guys do this often, ie.-forget to text when they get busy? Should I be more understanding about the job, as he has only been there three weeks? And also what would you take 'be in touch soon' to mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): So, I got a text from him last night! Nothing fancy just apologising about the lateness (over a month) of his reply. Giving his excuse - under a pile of documents and had only just come up for breathe. Then asking how everything is with me. So...still not sure and now even more not sure how I feel as I think I may have someone else on the cards now! Oh my, the drama!! Just thought I would update you, The Poster
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reader, lotus68  +, writes (17 September 2012):
I believe that when a guy is really interested, he will ACT pretty fast. At the very beginning anyway. Sometimes they become lazy in the middle of a relationship. But in your case, pretend to be busy and try to forget about him.
He will show up if he really has something worthwhile to offer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): Thank you so much for the great responses! Yep, I will go with my gut instinct not to text him! Although it is probably going to kill me for a bit, however I think it is better in the long run. Hopefully I will be busy with lots of work this week to keep my mind off him!
Thanks so much
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 September 2012):
 P.S. All that "means" the answer to your question is: Do nothing.....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 September 2012):
Here's a lesson in guy-talk:
"Be in-touch soon"... really means: "I find you interesting, and would be quite OK with joining you in bed.... BUT, you don't make my blood boil enough so that I'm actually going to give you that "hot pursuit" that you KNOW that a guy who was really turned on by you would take up.... AND, I have a few OTHER girls on the line... and I'm going to continue trying to keep up THEIR interest (along with your's).... BUT if I find myself without some girl to spend time with me, some time, and it's getting close to "some time".... then (and only then) will I send you that text that sez, "Hey, let's get together..." which YOU will interpret as real interest and NOT that I am stuck with no OTHER girl to go out with me at that time...."
Is that clear enough????
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 September 2012):
 I tend to agree with yourself and Abella. If a guy is REALLY interested he puts in an effort. This guy doesn't seem to want to work to hard, new job and all.
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reader, Abella +, writes (15 September 2012):
 Yes guys do forget to phone, forget to text, forget to turn up. Though guys utterly besotted and in love will rarely forget.
But priorities are priorities and he may be overwhelmed in the new job.
Best you do nothing. Sadly a mention of "lunch" is sometimes a false way for guys to say something hopeful when they really mean "no thanks". Yes pathetic that they can't be honest.
Either way you should not chase him - so no texts.
If he is just super busy and that is why he has not contacted you (but does intend to contact you) then he will delight in doing all the 'running' to get you interested.
If he is NOT interested then you contacting him will irritate him
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