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writes:okay so i have this huge problem i discovered through his phone and the internet that my sisters husband is sleeping with other men, i dont want to upsett my sister she is just pregnant for the second time and she always says how much she loves him, i hate hime for doing this to my sister! but what do i do? risk my sister hating me and tell her and hope she will be okay or keep it to myself and hope he will come to his senses and stop or end the relationship! please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so i was looking through the computer records because i was lookin for files of mine on there cause they have our old computer and as for the fone, it went off i looked at the texts, the conversations show that he has definately been doin it. wat more proof would i need?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay i have proof some of the ocnversations he has had are saved to the computer thats how i found out at first then he got suspicious messages on his phone one day when he had left it at home. your ideas are really helpful i think i now need to try to make my decision on wat to do, any more advice from anyone would still be alot of help! thanks guys
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reader, Kepi  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Speak with him first, can you explain why you were looking at his phone and internet records? Does it prove he is sleeping with other guys or are you just assuming? Whatever the reasons, speak with him and if he is, let him tell your sister, just be there for her when the bomb drops, I think it would be better that you are there to support her rather than give her bad news.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I suggest you go to her husband first and tell him he needs to own up to her. And that if he doesn't, you'll tell her.
It's better coming from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): what if your sister catches a terrible STD from him?? Think about that. She has every right to know.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I agree with Jezebel. Make sure you have proof to support what you will be telling her. you might even want to tell him first about what you plan to do, because he needs to figure out how he is going to talk to her about this issue.
I'm sure he doesn't want to hurt her. He is probably just as scared about losing his dream family as you are angry about him doing this to your sister. You all need to sit down and have a long talk about where this is going to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Make sure you have proof for her to look at and then calmly approach her with the details. Be prepared because at first she will lash out at you, the messenger. But as she calms down, you can be there as a support. You have to tell her so she can get out of this and rebuild for herself and her baby. I know it will be hard but at least she has a sister like you to help her through! I wish you and her the best of luck.
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