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writes:Hi, I've been talking to me ex for about a year now. He's married since our breakup. We were together a long time. His wife doesn't know. We talk when she's not around. We spend hours on the phone. Like 4 or 5 hours. It seems he likes talking to me. We laugh about stupid stuff. My question is, should I tell him I still love him and take my chances, or keep quiet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2013): If there is still a connection, let him make the moves. Just sit back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): It's funny to me that everyone is telling me to move on!! Is he not wrong at all?? Shouldn't he move on? I am not provoking this!!! Just funny, that's all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 March 2013):
 If I say "ask his wife" what to do I'm sure you will not get my point.
Honey what good will telling a married man who's lying and cheating on his wife with you that you love him?
what CHANCES are you taking? that he will leave his wife for you? He won't. And when she finds out about you, he will probably cut you off and not look back
telling him will not get you a man who is married to another woman.
You need to walk away from him totally and go no contact... for your peace of mind and healing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2013): Hi, I can also say for you own sanity, let him go as you will eventually become miserable that you are the other woman and all you get is bread crumbs.If he truly loves you and want to be with you he will reach out to you. It's best you move on with no expectations as married men very rarely leave their wife and every mistress thinks she is the exception and that he truely loves her. I know you are not the mistress but you will eventually get there as you will believe that you are different and with all the promises made by this man you will succumb.Get out now before you are back asking how do I get over my married lover.
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reader, franny1297  +, writes (25 March 2013):
 You don't! sorry, it's just he's married now, don't do anything that will spoil the marriage, and remember you broke up for a reason, (which would have been helpful if you mentioned). You can stay in contact but know where to draw the line, like a student-teacher relationship. Good luck!!
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reader, uzer  +, writes (25 March 2013):
Don't ruin someone's marriage. It's a little disrespectful to be crowding his relationships, also. He's married. Put yourself in his wife's shoes also. She didn't do anything to you, and even if she had, you really don't have the right to be trying to squeeze your way in between them. If you tell him you like him, what do you expect him to do? Leave his wife? And even if you don't tell him, you're only hurting yourself and possible his marriage by occupying yourself with him so much. I say move along.
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