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How to make my boyfriend to stop interrupting me?

Q.   How to make my boyfriend to stop interrupting me. My boyfriend has this annoying habit of constantly interrupting me. Especially I notice it when there are other people involved in conversation. For example, we invited a landscaper to do...

A.   13 August 2014: Tell him how you feel. Men sometimes do this when they want to be in control, but if you're not looking to be controlled, then you need to tell him that you can handle talking without him interrupting you and tell him that you don't believe that it ... (read in full...)

Should I get married or date my friend?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together a couple years shy of a decade. We began dating in high school but also went through several splits most only for a couple weeks to a couple months and one that was a few months. My boyfriend finally grew up ...

A.   13 August 2014: If you're second guessing getting married because of someone you dated in the past then clearly you are not ready for marriage and you are not ready to fully commit to your boyfriend and put your past fling behind you.... (read in full...)

How do I stop her advances, without embarrassing either of us?

Q.   Simple question. I work with this woman, she is about 20 years my senior and lately i have been wondering if she fancies me. She is very touchy feely with me and I am not the type to cause any trouble so i don't say anything except to a very...

A.   10 April 2013: To be honest, the best way might be to politely say it straight forward, of course mentioning that you may be misunderstanding though. It doesn't have to be a deep, long conversation, just enough to get your point across. Also, maybe try mentioning ... (read in full...)

His friends are judgmental, mean, try to break us up and are so disrespectful!

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm typing this post because I don't really know who to talk to about this. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years and me and him have been through a lot, like most long term relationships. I feel like I'...

A.   10 April 2013: This is just my opinion, but a decent boyfriend or girlfriend would NEVER let someone talk serious crap about their significant other if they really loved/cared about them. Especially using the b-word. They'd also never let anyone talk in their ear ... (read in full...)

Is it the wrong time to be marrying with dating sites in the background?

Q.   I am getting married in June. Two years ago I found her to be going on dating sites. First she lied about it, and then admitted she did it for a joke. I caught her doing it again and I left that time. We got back after she begged me and promised she ...

A.   28 March 2013: Huge issue. Don't marry if there is such a serious issue present. She's possibly doing this for attention, but since you have expressed that you don't like it and she promised not to but continues anyway, I'm not sure she can be trusted for now.... (read in full...)

What does the term "significant other" means in the homosexual relationship

Q.   I would like to know what the term "significant other" means in the homosexual relationship. I used the term in an essay regarding interpersonal relationships. I stated that relationship of all kind can become complicated. whether it is with ...

A.   27 March 2013: It does mean spouse. People use significant other (I believe) to not distract from the conversation or make anyone uncomfortable, or in some cases, to keep from outing themselves. If you were talking to a man that you thought was straight and he ... (read in full...)

My brotehr is 38 and still still at home and interfers in my life

Q.   This isn't a relationship problem so I don't know if anyone minds me posting about siblings? But anyway, I'm so tired of having drama at home I don't want to yell or scream at anyone anymore and just want to be peaceful...so one night my boyfrie...

A.   27 March 2013: You both need to move out. You're certainly old enough. I don't live with my parents and I'm 19. If you don't want to listen to anyone telling you what to do because you're an adult, move out and you won't have to worry about anyone's rules. B... (read in full...)

Why do girls say this and then they end up liking me?

Q.   I'm an 18 year old guy, senior in high school. I don't think I'm a bad looking dude, but def not a pretty boy. When girls see me at first, there are some girls that think I'm cute, some girls that think I'm ok, and some girls that think I'm ugly ...

A.   27 March 2013: Unless one is stubbornly shallow, in the end people fall in love with a person's character, not the way they look (although that can always be part of what they fall in love with). Not all girls, or guys are one way or the other. Me, for example, ... (read in full...)

Why does he behave this way? I really like him.

Q.   Why does he behave this way? I really like him:(? There's this guy that I really like. He's constantly staring at me when I'm not looking and looks away and runs off as soon as I catch him looking. Sometimes he's the sweetest thing ever an...

A.   26 March 2013: Ask him. Sounds like he likes you, and if you like him you guys should work something out, unless you see any reason to avoid dating him after discussing it with him.... (read in full...)

I want to make a family with him but I don't like how our relationship is on again off again. What should I do?

Q.   I'm a asian girl who fall in love with a europeian boy that younger than me 3 years , we met each other in my country and we definitely fall in love each other , we 're in relationship until 1 yr 8 months then see each other again ..because that ...

A.   26 March 2013: This guy sounds very childish. I say let him go, even though it hurts. It will only hurt you even more to try to stay with this guy that is confused about what he wants, or maybe playing games with you. He is insane.... (read in full...)

Did he scare himself off when he nearly said that he loved me?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for 3 months. It has been an incredible journey, we can't get enough of each other and we have both been very open and expressive with our feelings so far, although we have not yet used the L word. This guy seems very ...

A.   25 March 2013: If you love him, why not say it? It may bring him some comfort because he might be feeling vulnerable for feeling so strongly about you. That would explain him becoming so closed off.... (read in full...)

I think my girlfriend's sister has feelings for me and it makes me uncomfortable

Q.   My girlfriend's sister is overly nice to me and I can't help but think she might have feelings for me. I'm 24, my girlfriend is 25 and her sister is 19. She does have a boyfriend herself and seems happy enough with him but whenever he's not around ...

A.   25 March 2013: Talk to your girlfriend about your discomfort.... (read in full...)

My friend has a boyfriend but also likes a guy that I'm interested in!

Q.   Firstly, I want to explain that my best friend is in a relationship, but a complicated one. One minute she really likes him, the next she wants to end it, she even admitted to liking this guy who I had went with/kissed. The thing is I am sort of ...

A.   25 March 2013: You can date whomever you want. If she's in a relationship at the moment, her only choice should be her boyfriend. If she were really that into the guy that you like, she'd leave her boyfriend, but since she hasn't, you don't have to keep from ... (read in full...)

Crush problems, I want to tell him it's just as much my fault as his!

Q.   anyway there is this boy ive had a crush on for 3 years. i texted him that he was hot and sexy. he wants me to do sexual things with him. then i made this mistake of telling him i was on my period (im 13 hes 14) then he texted me back saying "what ...

A.   25 March 2013: You're both too young for this kind of stuff. Please don't worry yourself about boys and sexual things at such a young age. This boy probably won't even matter to you in a year. You'll see how silly this is.... (read in full...)

Should I tell my ex I still love him?

Q.   Hi, I've been talking to me ex for about a year now. He's married since our breakup. We were together a long time. His wife doesn't know. We talk when she's not around. We spend hours on the phone. Like 4 or 5 hours. It seems he likes talking to me. ...

A.   25 March 2013: Don't ruin someone's marriage. It's a little disrespectful to be crowding his relationships, also. He's married. Put yourself in his wife's shoes also. She didn't do anything to you, and even if she had, you really don't have the right to be trying ... (read in full...)

I want to improve our relationship in so many ways, please help!

Q.   So I'm going to an 18th party at the weekend with the new boyfriend. Planning on getting him drunk and then because we are sleeping the night (drunk) in a bed was gonna take things to the next level. He's a virgin though. We will have been going ...

A.   25 March 2013: 1. Don't get him drunk and have sex with him. That's like raping him. I'm sure he'd rather be aware of his first time too. Try not getting him drunk and just letting things run their course. If you're both in the mood, it will probably happen. And ... (read in full...)

How can you tell if your 16 year old daughter is having sex?

Q.   How do you know if your 16 old is having sex she say she not but how can you tall? ...

A.   25 March 2013: You can tell if she tells you. That shouldn't be the issue though. Just educate her on safety, protecting herself, not being pressured into it, waiting until she's ready, the possible consequences, etc.... (read in full...)

Perfect LDR Relationship suddenly falling apart?

Q.   Hi, i am from Toronto and currently in a online relationship with an absolutely amazing man from Florida. We met at a dating site and we clicked immediately after talking for 3days. He told me "I love you" on the third day. i was a bit confused...

A.   25 March 2013: While some LDRs work, they can't work if there's a lack of communication. I say you let this one go since he's only coming around every now and then I'm currently in an LDR that started as one, but my mate and I talk everyday and as often as ... (read in full...)

I fell in love with a boy who lives faraway but only communicates on facebook.

Q.   SO .. I'm in love with a guy .. he's not from my school and he lives near my city ..i see him about 4-5 years and now i started to have feelings for him.. those feelings are very strong it's the first time that im in love like this ..i added him on ...

A.   25 March 2013: While I disagree with Denise32 saying online relationships can never work, I agree that he is off-limits if he has a girlfriend. Also, it doesn't seem like you guys know each other, to be honest. It sounds as if you just saw a cute guy on Facebook ... (read in full...)

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