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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend applied for a job across sea's before he met me and left for it 3 months into our relationship, since then we have seen each other as much as possible (as money, university and other commitments allow). We have been coping well and dealing with it as best as we can, and we are both happy. However the other night a friend stayed over after a night out and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with him. At no point during it did I relax or really enjoy it. Was I just looking for closeness that I have been missing due to having my boyfriend so far away? Or is this a sign I need to rethink my relationship? Should I tell my boyfriend, or keep quiet? I have been racked with guilt since and just want to take the night back.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 May 2010):
It doesn't matter whether you enjoyed it or not, or whether you were relaxed or not. You still cheated, and whatever you say won't change that. If you cheated, there is a reason, and you can't run away from it. I think it's pretty clear that you were probably lonely and needed the company. You're not the first to have done this, and you won't be the last. The truth is, at this young an age, and given that he's probably going to end up abroad, I think the time has come for you to think seriously about ending it. This is something that won't go away. What happens of he goes abroad more often? What happens if he moves there permanently? Realistically, I don't think this will work, and you'd do better to spend time alone having your fun and settling with the right guy later in the future.
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