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anonymous
writes:Hello everyone, I have been spending some time on social media and I have quite a few male friends as well as female friends. There is one guy in particular who I like as a friend but it's hard to ignore the fact that he is extremely good looking, in fact he could be a model. He lives in Norway which is quite far from me. Lately, I find myself fantasizing about him. We have exchanged pictures, he tells me he appreciates me commenting on his photos. Two of the photos he has on his page are without his shirt and you can only see from the waist up, when we exchanged photos I sent a regular photo of me, then he sent a naked one and I wasn't expecting that but I'm not gonna lie, he has the most gorgeous body! He told me that he wishes I was there with him. I told him that I like him and that he was a nice guy, and he complimented me and told me how intelligent, kind and beautiful I am even said, "Where have you been all my life? I've been searching for so long, we would be great." I don't think anything will come of this flirting that we do and I see he has a quite a few female friends on his profile so should I just take what he says with a grain of salt?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 October 2017):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
You are now part of his "admirer's club" and he is enjoying the attention. Doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive but in reality how big is the chance that anything REAL would come of this?
Get on with life, go meet people in your OWN geographical area and if you are looking for a partner... Let the handsome Norwegian go when you find one...
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (6 October 2017):
 I agree with the other aunts when they say to just enjoy the flirting and what not but please just don't take it to your head.
Think about it, if he could so easily send you a nude without any thought, there must be so many other females that he's doing that to as well. He sounds like the classic F-boy who just thrives off getting attention from any female that will show him the time of day.
Flirt as much as you like but remember to stay true to yourself by not getting carried away by doing anything out of character.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (6 October 2017):
 Fantasize away! Flirt away! Both are harmless. However, DON'T put your life on hold for him or lay any store on what he says to you.
I assume you have never even met the guy? If you are looking for a relationship (I assume you are single?) then go out and meet guys face to face. This contact, while probably harmless and fun, is unlikely to lead to anything serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2017): It's flirting and pretty common online. He's European and not quite as prudish about nudity as most Americans. He has a lot of female friends; and he knows he's good-looking. You're part of his growing fan-base.
Don't take him seriously. Have as much fun as you like; but don't send him any nudes of yourself. It would be out of character for you, and I don't think you'd like pics of your body circulating the internet. Trust that he will try to talk you into it. I wouldn't recommend that you follow-through.
Enjoy the playful flirting. Leave it at that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2017): Yes, not just a grain of salt but the whole darned shaker full!When reading through your post, everything about him immediately screamed player!He's done this before. He'll keep doing it again. He knows he's got a good body and judging from all the females he's already got as friends, he's already tested the waters and knows the women are biting!!! He seems pretty arrogant and well practiced.You are lonely and like the attention. Puts a skip in your step. But honey, he's got a trail of them. Feeding them all the same lines.Big red flag when a guy sends you naked pics. And starts up with the bullshit statements about where have you been all my life? LOL. Sorry, can't help but laugh at this one! He is so transparent!From your age, you are definitely iold enough to know better. Old enough to spot a player!You've spotted him!Perhaps caught him in your net for the time being. It isn't that hard. They will take just about any woman who is needy and craving attention.Now it's time for a very quick release!!!This one ain't a keeper.He's just looking for some harmless fun, an ego boost, a pleasant distraction or two or three... You cannot trust anything about the facade he creates online. It's so easy to pretend and lie and manipulate. He is not worth investing your time or heart into, and especially since he lives a whole world away. You will never really know the real him. You know nothing about him or his life away from you.What is going on with you that you are letting your guard down so easily?Trust your gut. It's always right.
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