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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Alright so this is the deal.My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. When we met, he was having problems with his girlfriend and I was having problems with my boyfriend. We both dumped them and started going out. Everything was great! Feelings of love sprouted and we had tons of good times. When summer came, we both had to leave. I had to go to a camp and he went to go on vacation.Now here is where it get's interesting. The girl he had supposedly broken up with, while he was dating me, he and her got back together and when he went away, it was to live with her. So they were living together doing who knows what. During the about 3months they were living together, he caught evidence of her cheating(a pic he took) and he moved out.Every time I asked who he was staying with, he never once mentioned her or anything. He admitted to getting a blowjob from a random girl (I dont know if it was a random girl or the girl he was living with) but never admitted to living with her. No matter how many chances I gave him to come clean, not once did he! Much much later when I asked, did he admit and told me the truth. I spoke to his best friend about it. His best friend told me that the idea of living together and everything was their idea, not my boyfriend's. It was a way to get back at her for cheating on him. To live with her and get evidence. I don't fully believe this. I do think that he still had feelings for her and for me so he messed with both of us but the evidence of her cheating that he got made him leave and stay stuck on me.Now, I'm not sure of what to do. I just want to slap him till my hand hurts. I love him a lot. He is my first love and for those of you who know, it isn't exactly easy to forget your first love. I had chosen to stay with him because if it turned out good, than great! If not, than I'm left heartbroken but with a very valuable experience gained that I can use for myself and to help others, which I have been able to.He has told me that he is deeply sorry and that he regrets it all. That he will never do anything of the sort again and will stay faithful and promises to always tell me the truth. He also keeps trying to spoil me and even says that when I'm done with college, he will marry me and that I'm everything he wants. He seems sincere in his apologies and such but I am still very angry with him. He really put a dent in my trust in him and he really really deeply hurt me. I don't feel that he deserves my forgiveness nor will he get it anytime soon. He is going to have to try hard to earn it.I'm confused and hurt. I don't know if I should stay with him and give him opportunities to prove himself or if I should just end it. Even if I should end it, I really do love him and it would be hard to break up with him and I already know he isn't going to break up with me. He said so himself. What should I do? This whole thing is messing with me and I just need some advice.Also, if you experienced anything similar, please tell me.
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