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Should I stay in this relationship? Or am I wasting my time?

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Question - (12 March 2018) 2 Answers - (Newest, 12 March 2018)
A female Australia age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi Dear cupid.

I am after some advice on my relationship.

Myself (25 this year) and my partner (24 this year) have been together for almost 4 years this September.

Our relationship is great most of the time - we get along pretty well.

but there are a couple of issues...

I am wanting to buy a house which I am saving for. (I am also paying off a car loan)

My partner has no savings (hasn't had any since being together) My partner is also paying off a car loan - says he wants to start saving for a house this year.

Now, I'm not a controlling person but my partner is huge into camping and 4wding and is always spending money on the car (not an issue but I just believe that money could be going towards a house instead)

Next one:

Over these 4 years my partner and I haven't really had a talk about future plans...I do want children, I'd like to have them now and being a mum is something I have always wanted to be. I see people our age having children and they seem to be managing to buy/build houses live comfortably whilst having a child/children.

I also have colleagues who have been with their partners for just over a year, have a baby and are extremely happy people/couples.

My partner has said he wants to get married before having a child, wants only one child but can't give me a time frame of when he wants all this. (we are not engaged either) I'm fine with having one child (we are both only children)

I guess I get down about this situation because I see all these couples achieving all these goals (houses, marriage, children) and here we are four years later, renting....and I feel like we are getting/going no where...

Being the older one in the relationship, I would like to have a child before I'm 30...and I worry, because I believe woman have a pircific body clock with having babies.

I believe my partner would make a great husband and father, I just worry that we will run out of the time we buy a house, it will be too late to have a baby.

I know for a fact my partner isn't ready for a baby, and would be very disappointed and mad at me if I was to fall pregnant.

(I work in childcare as a job, and have done for the last 8 years too)

I guess what I am trying to ask is....Am I wasting my time? Should I stay in my relationship or should I find a future with someone else?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2018):

If you have to ask the answer is no. You're still quite young. You have plenty of time to find someone who wants what you want.

Something to think about. Half of those people you see that are your age having babies and buying houses will likely end up divorced.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 March 2018):

Honeypie agony auntGirl, you have asked this question for over a year! SAME question OVER and over.

You seem to ignore all advice given already.

IT IS up to you to make the choice.

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