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writes:I have been in a relationship with a guy I met in college for almost 4 years now. We have in a good, stable, loving relationship. I'm an international student, so I had to leave upon my graduation. We're half a world away now. I have plans to go back to continue my studies next year. I asked him if he wanted to be in LDR and he said he doesn't like it, but he's willing to do it for me. Over the past 4 years I left every summer for 3 months to visit home, and that's the longest duration we've gone without seeing each other. He's the type that says i love you almost everyday. I have been away for a month, and he said it once or twice to me, and he doesn't make much effort to call or text or email. I finally asked him why he hasn't said it much lately and he said he doesn't know. He said he knows that he loves me less, and doesn't wanna lie to me. He said he's trying to live his life here, and it's not certain that i'll be back (he's coming to me this summer, and I am going back to visit him too). He had just sent me a letter two weeks ago saying he loves me and misses me a lot. I'm really confused. I miss him so much and I thought what we had was special. He never mistreated me, and I felt so lucky to be with him. Now only a month has passed since I left, and his feelings had changed. He can't even say he loves me. He said maybe one day we'll be together again, but right now he can't say he loves me, but he misses me. He also told me he has been depressed since I left. But I'm also in the same boat. Should I start the healing process, and move on? I'm so confused as to what I should feel or do right now.
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reader, The13th_Floor  +, writes (3 March 2011):
I'm in a similar situation with my wife of 9 years. We're apart, I love her so much, but she won't say it back. It's not a good sign from your aspect or mine. I know it hurts. I'm hurting too right now...
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