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writes:hii met a girl a few weeks ago that is still a bit hung up over her ex. he slept with someone behind her back but its her first bf and they've been together for years so she finding it hard to get over him.anyway we both like each other and have met on the weekends a few times, but i was a bit eager and was asking her out all the time, she told me it's complicated for her and that she really likes me but wants to sort things out with her ex first. i asked her out again and on the day we were meant to meet up she was acting funny and over the phone asked if i wanted to leave it there. apparently she was thinking of me because she liked me but didn't want me to get hurt if her and her ex did get back or something. i've got a lot of respect for how honest she's been through the whole thing and i know what it's like to be in her position so i can understand how hard it is to get over your first love, even if they have done you wrong.i sent a text after the phone call saying i've enjoyed meeting her and hope everything works out for her. now tho i can't stop thinking if circumstances were different i'd be with her, i really like her.i've written an email saying im sorry for puttng added pressure on her and being a bit selfish in that way, i also said that i like her and hope i ain't messed up a chance of taking her out in the future if she ever wanted to and that she could call me. should i send it or do i seem a bit sad? lolwould i be better just totally leaving it and possibly never hearing from her or just go sh%t or bust?i dont want to embarrass myself but it's a pain knowing i have no control over it. any advice? she definatley liked me too cos she asked me out to and was asking to meet on the weekends. her mates were telling me that she tells them how much she likes me too, this is why i'm so confused its all suddenly come to an end when i thought it was going somewhere.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (19 May 2008):
 I believe you should wait for a while and not be in touch with her. You are a little too available for her and are creating no challenge. Let her be for now and see if she initiates things.......H.
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reader, Master mind i am  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 It's best if you do it in person. When writing she may read it a certain way and start adding little words by mistake. so tell her in person or on the phone. but DON'T sound so eager and needy. be calm and real (girls don't like fake ones at all) just be you.
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