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writes:Ok I am really in love with this girl for 2 years already. I waited for her even though I knew she was in a relationship with her bf for 4 years. Her relationship wasn't going well. She broke up with him a couple of times but patched back with him because her bf forced her. Then last year she started liking me and had feelings for me. She had on and off feeling towards me. Then one day, we had a conflict because she wanted me to move on because she still likes him and doesn't want to end the relationship even though she knows her relationship is not healthy, a possessive one. I had no choice but to respect her decision. Now recently, we started to talk to each other how we used to talk. We text each other late night. She says she feels happy after so long we text-ed each other late at night. And she told me whenever she sees my messages, it just puts a smile on her face and she also said, she tries to avoid me but cant. I am confused. Does she still have feelings for me? Should I see whether she misses me by not having any contact with her for about a week or two??? But my heart feels heavy whenever I don't talk to her. I REALLY NEED ADVICE HERE!
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reader, truelondoner  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 yes i think that is a god idea, you should have about 2 weeks space away from her, if she misses u she will get in contact, but if not then the answer is oberious tht she has moved on. good luck and remeber everything hapens 4 a reason!x
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (16 January 2010):
If u play that game then she will miss u and then give u just enuff to make u come back. Then she will go on about how she loves her bf again. I think wut u are looking to do is provoke romantic feelings in her which sorry to say u can't do. I say leave and cease contact with her even when she tries to come back. Don't be her crutch as u deserve to have ur feelings returned.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2010):
This girl just isn't interested, and you need to move on. Even if she is, you can't do a thing unless she leaves her boyfriend. But she won't, because she's with him. You need to move on and find someone who does love and care for you.
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (16 January 2010):
 I have known so many people who have been in the same situation as you. Even I was and am currently in the same situation now in some way. I can say how you feel and think is is perfectly understandable and logical.
Actually, it's not a bad idea to do that. We have to be honest, this is one of the most effective way to know if someone misses us because if they do, they seek our attention. You can do it actually to test BUT be careful because this is risky. What if you will not get what you expect? I am sure it will hurt you more. Can you deal with that then?
I'd say, go ahead and do it but atleast you've been told what might be the result of this. Although, as based on your story...if you want to come out a winner, it is best that you quit hoping for her to have a change of heart and instead give your time to meet someone who will not give you a hard time as this and someone who will give you her whole heart.
Good luck!!
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