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writes:Dear cupid, I love my children with everything of me.They are grown now but my daughter she out living in her own apartment she's working im proud of her but she is dating this druggie she has a child with him and I really despise him he's a deadbeat he lives off of my daughter and her son"s check.She is buying love from this punk and I really feel like turning her in to officials for taking my grandchild's money to bail his ass out of jail he's trying to call shots at her place he dont suppose to be there anyway I talked to other members in the family they said leave her alone let her get in trouble on her own what should I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2014): This is for So Very Confused my daughter gets foods stamps that she traded for cash and she used the welfare check and her working check to get this punk out of jail right now I really try to stay away so I wont go to jail.But I am going to let it be she's going to get caught sooner or later .Thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 December 2014):
 IF they are not abusing the baby or neglecting the baby there is not much you can do as your grown daughter can choose to do with her funds as she sees fit.
IF you are willing to take custody of you grandchild and raise him, then you should discuss this with your daughter.
IF she has this man at her home by her choice unless she is on public assistance and he's living there against the rules you can report her and have her lose her home and her government support. If you opt to go that route make sure you would get custody of grandchild before destroying your relationship with your daughter by turning her in to the authorities.
Other than mom making bad choices in her love life and what to do with her money.. what other issues are there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014): My grandbaby just turned six months he doesn't understand anything but she does.I really want her to get her self together and stop being a damn fool.If she didn't have a child I wouldn't worry to much because she can defend for herself but my grandbaby can only get what she gives.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (14 December 2014):
 Before you go that route, figure out what it is you want them to do.
I'm inclined to agree with the anonymous female below. I spent some time in the system myself when I was very young and found the 'trained professionals' were as useless as tits on a bull. And subsequent news accounts of all the horrific cases of abuse that occur right under their noses, on both sides of the pond, don't inspire my confidence.
Are you prepared to take custody of this child? You might want to speak to an attorney before taking any action. The threat of children's aid might be sufficient to leverage her co-operation, but I'd speak to a lawyer first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014): If child services in America are anything like they are here in the UK then they cause more harm then good and I would never involve them unless the child was being physically harmed (I speak from experience having spent time in a childrens home growing up) and there was no way he could live with another relative.It doesn't sound like she is neglecting him,just being very silly-as long as he is being fed,loved and attending school I would just advise her to leave the idiot bf and be there for support until she does.If this bf is on drugs,does he take them at home,could he be dangerous to be around? If so I would try to arrange for your grandson to stay with you and if they refuse then you could contact child services and make it clear you want him to come and live with you,not go into care.Once you involve them though,they will be very difficult to get rid of and they may find some non existant problem with you or your family that means he can't stay with the family and has to go into care so please think before involving them and tread really carefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014): Thanks for the feedback I know for sure she is because before he got out of jail I found one of her letters stating to him that she is going to do everything in her power to get him out before this year is up.So now he is out.It really hurts me to know that my daughter feels that she has to buy love.She is beautiful,intelligent and she really dont need this trash.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014): If this was me in this position I would push all my bond for my daughter aside and id concentrate on my grandchild. contact social services ASAP. discuss your concerns and let them take over. if anything ever happened to that child you would question yourself as to why u didn't do something. don't sit back do something there is to many child abuse cases out there.
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