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female
age
41-50,
*ulnerable
writes:I am confuse whether or not to move out from my boyfriend's house. I am staying almost 2 years now with my bf family. He treated me well with respect, shower me with love, protect me and care for me a lot. However, i still don't think its good enough because i am literally living with his family as though i am marry to him. We do plan to engage this year and get marry next year. I feel that i need more than that especially i need to explore things in my life eg. new guy friends, new independent life. To be honest, my current bf is my first love after being together for 6 years including 2 years living together and he is 6 years older than me.I feel blessed and very lucky to have him because I hardly do any house chores as his maid will do everything except every month I do some marketting and shopping for the necessaties.Recently, I met a guy at work which we have crushed with each other. We have dinner together occasionally, make plans for holiday and hold hands. I told that I have boyfriend already but he told me to evaluate and consider my relationship with my bf before making decision to be with him. I did not tell him much about my bf and I don't want him to get jealous. I am really concious with what I want in my life and decided to move out from my bf house.I found a lovely apartment but I have to bear all expensenses by myself. I am still partially sure about whether I could manage and be independent again after living for 2 years with someone I love.The reason of me to move out because I wish to understand better of myself before I decide to marry and start a family. I need to engage in social activities such as have more friends and have more freedom. I told my bf about I need more space and freedom, thus he ask me to give him some time and want to plan for our future in terms of open a saving accounts together, go for vacation and socialize more with my friends and family. But I am not sure whether I can take his words as I need changes in my life but he is not because he feel comfortable with what he has already.I am so confuse now, and want some opinion whether to move out to start my new life or living together with him until we get married some day.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 You should move out and explore your own life before you
planned to settle down with the monotonous married life.
Born free and like the wild wind blows....
It is now or you will never have the chance to feel and
experience what single and independent life means.
This is a phase in everyone's life that one has got to go
through or it will be lost forever.
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