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female
age
26-29,
Vulnerable
writes:I am confuse whether or not to move out from my boyfriend's house. I am staying almost 2 years now with my bf family. He treated me well with respect, shower me with love, protect me and care for me a lot. However, i still don't think its good enough because i am literally living with his family as though i am marry to him. We do plan to engage this year and get marry next year. I feel that i need more than that especially i need to explore things in my life eg. new guy friends, new independent life. To be honest, my current bf is my first love after being together for 6 years including 2 years living together and he is 6 years older than me.I feel blessed and very lucky to have him because I hardly do any house chores as his maid will do everything except every month I do some marketting and shopping for the necessaties.Recently, I met a guy at work which we have crushed with each other. We have dinner together occasionally, make plans for holiday and hold hands. I told that I have boyfriend already but he told me to evaluate and consider my relationship with my bf before making decision to be with him. I did not tell him much about my bf and I don't want him to get jealous. I am really concious with what I want in my life and decided to move out from my bf house.I found a lovely apartment but I have to bear all expensenses by myself. I am still partially sure about whether I could manage and be independent again after living for 2 years with someone I love.The reason of me to move out because I wish to understand better of myself before I decide to marry and start a family. I need to engage in social activities such as have more friends and have more freedom. I told my bf about I need more space and freedom, thus he ask me to give him some time and want to plan for our future in terms of open a saving accounts together, go for vacation and socialize more with my friends and family. But I am not sure whether I can take his words as I need changes in my life but he is not because he feel comfortable with what he has already.I am so confuse now, and want some opinion whether to move out to start my new life or living together with him until we get married some day.
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (14 April 2008):
 I totally agree with your decision, I think it would be a very healthy thing for you to be on your own. Put marriage on the backburner for now and explore life to the fullest- you won't regret it. Congratulations.
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (14 April 2008):
 Marriage doesn't have to be boring and monotonous, but it won't be different from living together!
Talk to him about your needs and allow him to meet you half way. The problem is that you don't seem to want him to change, but rather you seek an excuse to leave. Am I right?
If you were in love with him, you would just try to get more of a social life, meet people, make friends and go out with your friends AND your boyfriend.
Instead, you want the opportunity to see what's out there. This tells me you don't want him any more.
So moving out might be a very good idea! It'll be hard to get used to, but it'll make you proud of yourself.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 April 2008):
 You should move out and explore your own life before you
planned to settle down with the monotonous married life.
Born free and like the wild wind blows....
It is now or you will never have the chance to feel and
experience what single and independent life means.
This is a phase in everyone's life that one has got to go
through or it will be lost forever.
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