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writes:I'm 22 and still live at home (and dont pay rent). My parents broke up a year ago, and i live with my dad.My dad started seeing another women about 10 months ago, and he hasnt introduced us yet.Sometimes she'll stay overnight, but my dad will pretend that she isnt there, by going in the living room and closing the door. She seems quite rude as at night time she talks loudly and bangs about and slams doors.Since dating her he forgot my birthday and my brothers birthday completely, and decided to go away with her at christmas, rather then stay with me and my brother.At the weekends she stays over, so i've started staying at my girlfriends parents house, but i dont feel as thought i can go home during the weekend as i know she'll be there and it feels like a stranger is in the houseAnyway.I've been going out with my Girlfriend for nearly 4 year, and her parents have said that i can live at their house and pay rent, but they said in 2 years we'll both have to move out into our own place(which i don't mind), my girlfriend is just about to start a apprenticeship/internship and it doeskin guarantee a job at the end of it.My brother earns a lot more then me and could easily afford to move out, but she would rather stay at home were its rent freeSo do i move out into my girlfriends parent house and leave my brother or should i stay at home.Im also worried about if me and my girlfriend break up, i wont be allowed to come back home.
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reader, Aphid  +, writes (28 September 2010):
Best move is to move out with your Brother.
Moving to girlfriends house seems like a bit of a drag, and you don't want to be dependent on her for a place to live (unless you are very sure you won't be breaking up).
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reader, Battista +, writes (28 September 2010):
Are you working? Or a student? To be honest at your age you need to be thinking about getting your own place anyway, although I know it can be a very expensive business renting your own place.
Is there an option of moving out and getting a place together with your brother? Surely he can't be too keen on what's going on either? Have you spoken to him about the idea.
From personal experience, I wonder if you might find it a bit stressful living with your gf's parents. It is nice that they don't mind you lodging there but it create a lot of dependency on your gf and her family.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 This is a tricky situation to say the least. Ok so you are 22 now so we are the same age and in my opinion i think both ideas are wrong, i think the best thing to do here is go out and find an apartment to rent or even a room if money is tight, tell your dad that he has hurt you by forgetting your birthday but tell him that you are an adult now and you are going to move on with your life, maybe even you and your brother could get an apartment together, i think moving in with your girlfriend parents might be a wrong move as it could cause strain in your relationship and also as you said if you break up your back to square one. Best bet is to be independant and find your own place.
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