A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok...please answer this question without judging me.I had earlier posted a Q as to whether i should get back with my boy friend... as i had cheated on him.Well, things between us have been sorted out somehow... its not perfect but its better than before. He knows i cheated - he was pretty devastated... but he understood why i did it. I feel terrible that i broke his trust... wish i could turn back time. Now, comes the stupid part.The 'other' guy refuses to let go. He says he's in love with me. He says i am the only one he could ever imagine spending his entire life with...This other guy was my best friend.And he said i can't abandon him...he says he wants to be just friends if i don't want him...but he wants me to be a part of his life.The thing is, he's going to Germany in 3 months. He said once he goes there he'll be hopefully too caught up in his higher studies to think about me too much.Plus with different time zones... we will definitely lose touch. so he wants us to just talk once a week orr so till he goes...He wants to meet me one last time but i told him that i wont talk to him, its not right... and that i wont meet him.A common friend told me that he's really depressed and is drinking a lot. I am worried about him. I know its wrong. I am so ashamed... i hurt both of them.should i meet him one last time... or should i just ignore him? I really don't want to make more mistakes.
View related questions:
best friend, depressed Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess all of you are right...:)
Thank you, i will not meet the other guy then...its not worth it, plus it might just make things worse.
I'll just stick to what i had decided earlier :)...thank you.
A
male
reader, Ricemonster  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 You answered your own question actually. "I really don't want to make more mistakes."
If you feel you are someone who is prone to make mistakes of the heart a lot, then follow your gut instinct: "I really don't want to make more mistakes."
Then don't. In other words: don't meet with him. Protect what you have now, if it means anything to you.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): This is a tough situation but while you and your boyfriend are trying to rebuild the trust that was broken, I wouldn't advise that you meet with the other man. Think about how your boyfriend would feel if he found out. If you really feel you must see him, I suggest you do so in a VERY public place. Don't go anywhere where you will be alone with him.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Don't meet with him if you care about the boy friend.
You have to choose which one you want to be with, that is what you are doing right now.
If you meet with him, you are saying that he is somehow more important than the boyfriend and the relationship with the boyfriend, even if you keep it secret.
...............................
|
