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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I know a guy since 2003 and I was infatuated with him eversince i laid eyes on him. The problem is, during the time that I see him..he doesn't have a single clue how i felt about him. We were not even friends. I just communicate with him through SMS under a different name until one day he wanted to see me and I stood him up. Coz I was scared he might not like that the girl he sees in the library and met at a beach party was just me. So he stopped talking to me.A little later, i tried so many times after that to use another number and he would always attend to me. I always stood him up. Then I gave up realizing I can never overcome my cowardice.Another 2 years, I started adding him on facebook and yahoo messnger. And this time he saw my face and discovered who I am and remembered my face in school. Unfortunately, that was the time I started to work outside of the country but we kept our communication. Well not as frequent but we still catch up with news every 2 weeks or month. But even then, he said he wanted to meet me at the airport and proposed that we have a vacation in some popular beach resort. Everytime I go home to the philippines, I would chicken out and not contact him to say I was home. If I do contact him, it was the day of my flight and told him I was too busy to contact him.We still kept in touch though. Then one day he said to me he is tired of being single, so i told him to find a gf. He asked me to look at the pix of his coworkers and I chose one cute girl. A month into that, his status changed on facebook as "in a relationship" and a pic of them was the profile display. Yes, I was hurt and jealous but I just wanted him to be happy and I am not there. I told him how happy I am but he was kinda pessimistic to say "crap" to my greeting. Maybe he thinks I was faking it. But really, I was happy for him.Almost a year now that he dates the girl, I began to receive msgs from him on YM starting new years eve. I deleted him already actually but didn't block him. He gave me his new number and asked if he can meet me at the airport when I come home. He still wants the vacation we planned before. He keeps bugging me to apply for leave so I can go home and meet him finally. I told him I don't forget that he already has a gf but he tells me we don't know what the future holds for them. I told him to take with him his gf and introduce me to someone instead but he said he wanted to meet me alone. I know this is cheating on his gf but I want to meet him too as I have feelings for him. Can anyone give me advise of what is best to do? Should I follow my heart just this once and meet him once and for all or tell him to focus on his girl?
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