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writes:Hi, i'm really confused about what to do and hope someone here can help. Around a month ago, i met this guy through an online forum. We started chatting and a few days later exchanged numbers and started texting each other. We would text all day and he would call me after work daily. He eventually started showing signs that he was into me. He called me babe and many other mushy names, he'd purposely have cute fights with me and let me win, he would even call me up randomly to tell me his misses me. I found this cute. And i honestly did start liking him too. But i'm not very expressive through texts when it comes to showing my feelings. So i don't know if i let his feelings down. I think i did :( Cause we had decided to finally meet up for a movie today but since yesterday he hasn't been replying like he normally does. And last evening our conversation completely died ! Today i still had hopes that we'd meet , even if it was later in the day. But he showed no interest in texting me or even calling. I tried texting him asking if the plan was still on. he just casually replied that he was at a sports festival and after that he completely ignored my texts. I've had no response from him after that. Ugh why am i so bad at expressing my feelings?! I really like this guy and i don't want to lose him now. The day is coming to an end and still no reply from him. I feel totally ditched and ignored. My friend told me i shouldnt bother texting him. But should i just let go so easily? Should i make another attempt and how? I'm really shy too, so i wouldnt be able to tell that guy i like him directly. Please give me your opinions. thanks
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 You're very quick to assume that you did something wrong here. Why? Does it comfort you to think you have more control over things than you actually do?
It's perfectly normal not to be as demonstrative as others and you certainly don't have to match him in amorous expression. There are plenty of people like you (and me) out there.
He knows fine well you're interested. He obviously isn't anymore and he was rather rude about it.
Don't contact him again. Leave the ball in his court. If you hear from him, great. If not, just as good.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 May 2012):
 It sounds to me like he enjoyed talking to you and getting to know you but when it came to meeting you he backed out. Don't keep blaming yourself for this, if he was really interested he would have made the effort to meet you and get to know you face to face, but he never, so it sounds to me like he is not as interested as he is making out to be. He had fun talking to you but he rejected meeting up with you. Maybe it was nerves who knows? But he is the one that let you down here. So stop blaming yourself. It is up to him to make the effort now not you.
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