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writes:My ex-bf and me have been together for 5 years and during these 5 years, he has been a very loving bf. He loves me alot and we really wanted to be together forever. However, during the 5th year of our relationship, he found out that I was cheating on him. He says that he can forgive, but he is unable to forget what I did, and this in turn affected our relationship and sex life. He became very insecure with me and proposed to marry me. However, I was very unprepared and rejected his marriage proposal.Eventually, he broke up with me and even cut off all contacts from me. (he rejected all my calls and never reply my messages). 2 months later, he got a new gf and he told me to stop bugging him as he has already moved on.It has been 5 months and I still wished to get my ex-bf back in my life. I am very remorseful for what I have done, and I know that if we can be back together, I will be 100% committed to marry him and be with him.Right now, I am just waiting for him. I did not really bug him or his new gf (just sent him some smses when I thought of our past). He did not reply me and he does not even want to regard me as a friend.I do not know what to do, should I let him know that I am still waiting? Or should I leave him alone?Heard from friends that he is not as happy with his new relationship as when he was with me. should I really want to respect him and his decision to move on?Thankfully, I have gotten out of my misery and gotten on with my own life and setting goals I want to achieve being single and happy. However, I really love my ex and really want him back. What do I do about that?
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reader, natasia  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 If he really is unhappy in the new relationship, you should let him know you'll wait for him. He sounds very angry with you, though - I don't know if you'll win him back. You need to be completely contrite, but also remind him of the strength of feeling between you two, and how good you were. Problem is, he'll always think yeah, but I can't trust her - it can't have been that good.
It sounds to me like he wants to be free of you, but there's no harm in sending him one last text, or maybe a letter (which won't interrupt his relationship - a text could cause problems for him). You should say you've grown up and realised how important he is, and you are ready for him now, if he is for you. And ask him to forgive you for it having taken so long to get there - you tested your love for him, and you find yourself always coming back to him. He's the one for you.
But ask yourself - CAN he really trust you? Why DID you cheat on him??? Don't mess around with him if you're not sure - let him get on with his life.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 March 2008):
 "What baffles me is if u luv him this much then why cheat on him"
This is true.
However, we are all human and all make mistakes. Sometimes it takes making a mistake to realise things.
I'm not condoning cheating having never cheated myself.
I think you should leave him alone and concentrate on yourself. He knows where you are if he wants to get in touch with you.
Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): If you really love him let him try and make the relationship he is in work. If he is as unhappy as his friends make out then the relationship will run its course. When that happens be there for him as a friend. You need to earn his trust and starting as friends will be a great way to do this. For the moment concentrate on you and achieving your goals. Best of luck hun !!!
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reader, Harbbey3000  +, writes (13 March 2008):
What baffles me is if u luv him this much then why cheat on him,d deed has been done,if u really luv him then respect his decision,there is this saying that if u luv something then u should set it free,if it's truly yours it will come back 2 u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Its really too late now to be remorseful over has happened. You should do the same thing and move on with your life too. There's no point in waiting for this guy. He has moved on with his life, has a new person in his life - a life with out you. You have broken his trust in the worse possible way and even if you were to get back together again that trust wouldn't be there, not the way you used to have it anyway.
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