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male
age
30-35,
*ompressor
writes:Hello, guys,There's a girl I really like. We've been dating for 2 months already, and she is 5 years older than me and seems to be very nice and intelligent. The first time we went out was at the #VERYFAMOUSROCKBAND# concert, we were both very excited by the band's performance and I thought, "Geez, I want to stay with her forever."But the thing is, she has changed a lot since the time we were starting to get closer. She became more snobbish, she's wasting money all the time, she's telling me how rich and cool she is, good God, it is freaking me out. I'm not a beggar myself, my father is a very successful engineer (yes, there are such people here in Russia), we both drive almost brand-new vehicles, but he works all the time and I work and study to make money in order not to ask him to pay my bills or to give me money for fuel and stuff. But the thing is, we NEVER show off.You know, I feel confused. On the one hand, she's intelligent, hot and nice, on the other, the way she acts is often freaking me out. Should I talk to her? Make it clear that I'm not ok with her behavior? Is "eyes wide shut" a better option?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (16 June 2011):
 Glad to help! :)
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reader, Compressor +, writes (15 June 2011):
Compressor is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you very much, it worked. She said she wanted to prove she was independent. And I told her that I respect her and that she does not have to prove anything, at least not to me. Thanks again :)
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reader, fishdish +, writes (13 June 2011):
You definitely shouldn't ignore this part of her personality. That said, it sometimes takes a bit of time for people to allow their true personalities out in a relationship. I would mention it maybe indirectly, maybe point out a girl on the street that is really high maintenance and say what a turn off that is, that you really like simple girls that dont' care about material goods or money. If she doesn't get (or want) the hint, maybe you should just say sometime, I'm really surprised at your spending recently, is everything ok? It makes me uncomfortable to be around someone who is not very conservative with their money. and then take it from there, but try to be as respectful as possible because it can definitely come off accustatorily.
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