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female
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41-50,
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writes:ive met a new guy (online) and we've now had 5 dates in the past 2 weeks. He lives about 30 miles away. We get on really well, lots of laughs and banter and alot of chemistry. He texts me messages to say I make him smile alot etc. I have told him I would love to see him again (he is going on holiday with his daughter this week -she lives abroad. Shall I leave it down to him to contact me now.... kind of like a test to see if he likes me or not. We dont speak on the phone everyday but then it is really early days and I dont want to scare him. Im not one to chase and after 5 dates he should know if he really likes me shoudnt he?? An advice on how to behave with the new to dating agan stuff please??x
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I think you should wait for him to contact you, while some people think this is playing games, it does help in figuring out how the other person feels.
As Ed1337 said, he clearly likes you as he has seen you so much in a short space of time (and when he lives a fair distance away!). He wouldnt of done this if he wasnt interested in you.
While this is an old fashioned view, I have always believed and still do believe that men should do the chasing. Women should give the hints that they like the man but when it comes to arranging dates, phone calls etc then the man should make the first move. This should happen at the start of the relationship - dont carry on like this after a few months though otherwise he will get tired of it being one-sided!
Just wait a few days and see if he calls, I'm sure your patience will pay off and he will be in touch. And with regards to the dating game, it is all still as confusing as it was when you first started! I would advise you to just be yourself, go with what feels right for you and dont settle for someone just because you like the company; make sure they are someone special!
I hope this helps!
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Well if you've had 5 dates in only 2 weeks and he lives 30 miles away, i'm guessing he does really like you. I like to take it in turns when texting or calling someone, it shows that you both think about each other and its not one sided.Sometimes it can be hard not to contact someone you really like, but you don't want to seem needy and scare them off.
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