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41-50,
*arrybaggs
writes:At the gas station.She is so beautiful and seems so otherworldly and cool.I'm a 27 yr old geeky, balding, shy guy.How do I go about this? Is it wrong to ask her out? She doesn't do much small talk. I imagine she probably gets other guys hit on her all the time. A female friend I was with at the gas station one time told me she was shy and that was why she didn't look at me/us so much. Could this be true, or is she not interested?Should I keep it a pipe dream, or should I try talk to her?Anyone been in a similar situation, either from my side or hers?Thanks!
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reader, natmarie +, writes (29 October 2010):
 I would suggest you start up a normal freindly conversation with her, and see how she reacts !! if you get the green light ( you will know from her body language) then go ahead and suggest a date!! if she says no, you have lost nothing. Just use a different gas station.!! All the best of luck. x ;o)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Oh for Pete's sake- are you really 27 ? just go talk to her . Ask her out.
It's not against the law !
what 's the worst thing that can happen ?
That she says no :so ? It won't be the end of your life, and at least you'll have tried :
In fact, - from your point of view - the worst thing that can happen is that she says no PRECISELY because you are geeky, balding and shy. Big blow to your sense of self.
But big blows can be very positive too. Just what one needs at a certain stage of life.
For instance, you might decide that a woman who rejects you based on superficial criteria of glamorousness and "coolness" perhaps is not so dreamy and marvellous after all.
Or instead , a rejection may spur you to change, to shed your old geeky and shy persona in favour of a more confident, outgoing one ( I'd let the hair be anyway :) - Hair transplants, or wigs...nah. Leave them be, being bald is not so terrible ):
Or, she may say yes, who knows. Maybe she likes you and thinks you are not into her.
All in all try- you've got more to earn than to loose.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Life is too short for hesitation. If you act on your feelings and get a rejection then you can move on - it wasn't going to happen! If she says yes to a date then who knows where it may end up? She may be fed up of Mr Macho asking her out on dates but she may fancy intellectual men so you could be in luck! Instead of some big dramatic proposal why not start a conversation about something random next time you get fuel. Aim to see her at a time of day when the station is not busy. If you build up a friendship over a couple of visits then you could ask her for a date! Good luck!
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