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writes:I was seeing a guy who i think may have depression we have ended things as he cant cope with a relationship...i have left him alone for a few days and texted him last night just asking if ok as i do worry about you and if you need anything etc etc, he replied with not been to good but i will live....I asked what was wrong and he has not repliedI really dont know what to do shall i just leave him alone as im worried he may be confusing my concern for him as me wanting to start a relationship when all i want to do is be there for him but i cant keep asking then getting messages ignored to be honest its really rude...I actually feel like having a go at him because its not acceptable however down he feels to be so rude to me and to basically say get a grip...he does have a good life he is just full of self pity i reckon cause his ex dumped him, please help as i dont want to do anything that i will regret but being rude is disrespectable to me too when all i have been is nice maybe too nice and that is the problem..
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reader, Squirrel221062  +, writes (29 June 2008):
 Wow you said it all sarcy24
Please listen to that advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008): Sometimes saying nothing says more than anything. He does not want to talk to you, don't force the issue, it will only make it worse...both for him if he IS depressed and for you if he reacts poorly.
If he wants to contact you, he will. Find something to do with your time....volunteer at the local animal shelter. You will get lots of love and meet new people.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Sometimes when people are really depressed they cannot be bothered to do anything. I know it is rude not to reply and he knows it too its just that he can't force himself to do so. My close friend suffers from severe depression and often won't pickup even when I know he's there and won't answer texts because he can't motivate himself to do so. As a good friend I would put the fact that it is rude and disrespectful to one side and just continue as you are. When he feels better and wants to he will respond. Knowing that you are there for him will mean a great deal to him and from experience saying to the other person that it is rude not to reply and other comments like that can sometimes be more than the person can cope with. You are being a good friend and I would continue in this manner with no expectations of getting a reponse and accept it as being like this until he can bring himself out of this state. He is sad and upset at the moment but things will get better for him - just be light and breezy so he knows you care but can't read anything more into it.
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