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writes:Hey there,I am really liking a girl at the moment- to the point where i can't stop thinking about her and am having trouble sleeping but i can't tell how she feels about me. I am very unexperienced in these situations so am feeling pretty lost. I've met up with her a couple of times and she has agreed to go for a drink with me twice. but i'm not sure if she thinks it's as friends or more. i don't know if i'm putting the vibes across. Do i tell her how i feel or simply 'go for it'? should i try and kiss her next time or is 2 meetings too soon. i don't want her to think i'm not interested. I want to see her all the time but i'm guessing it's weird to ask to see her everyday. is every other day strange :s ? i need help. any advice would be much appreciated,many thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (4 September 2008):
 Try not to rush into anything, females are very complicated, you might think she is showing you all the signs, but it turns out that they only wanted to be friends.
Just take your time and play it cool, don't suddenly splurt out all your feelings for her via a text message or drunken phone call. Maybe play hard to get as well, some women like a challenge and if she is interested then she will contact you and arrange something.
The most important thing is knowing that if you do confess your feelings and she doesn't feel the same way, you might not get to speak with her again, thats why its best to take your time and enjoy the chase and then make a move when the time is right.
Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (4 September 2008):
Well you don't have to lunge at her.
Next time you are out make sure you are sitting next to her, and move closer, put your arm around her. Or if you are sitting opposite her then give her a compliment and take her hand if it is on the table.
Good byes are a great time to kiss a girl so if it goes well on the date then kiss her when you drop her off / she gets in her taxi or what ever.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, bluntasaspoon +, writes (4 September 2008):
 aww bless ur in love. if she has agreed to meeting u out for two drinks already and it is just u two then i think that u have got a good chance with her. i wouldnt make a move just yet though, take her for an "official date". phone her up and just ask her if she would like to go out for a meal and a movie with u. if she says yes then she likes u if she says no and dosnt give a reason then she is not interested, but if she says no but maybe on such and such a day then she is interested but is buisy that night. then just take it from there. if she leans into u and plays with her hair and has her shoulders facing towards u then she really likes u. i hope this helps
luv bluntasaspoon x
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reader, ak202  +, writes (4 September 2008):
I wouldn't go for the kiss, that can make her uncomfortable and you too. You should tell her how you feel. (what you've said here) That you like her and etc,...it seems that she likes hanging with you. If the response is positive, ask her for a date.
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