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writes:Im with a guy at the moment, but have had a crush on another guy at work for about two years. My current boyfriend and I have been together on and off for a number of years, however recently had a 9 month break. During this break, i did some online dating... whilst doing this, i strangely bumped into my crush (who i didnt even know was single), and we messaged each other a few times. Crushes are sometimes intense, and i must say, he makes me nervous. Anyway our online messages were purely at a friendly level, and a couple of months later, my boyfriend and i decided to give it another go. Anyway, since getting back with my boyfriend, i have heard from a work college that my crush mentioned to her that i was cute. And since then lots of coincidences have been happening - for example, guess who i randomly got for my secret santa this year!! Just in a funny way feels like signs keep directing me to him. Ahhh.. im so confused... i dont know whether its just all in my head, and i should just forget this crush and focus (like i should be) on my boyfriend.. I just cant help this crazy feeling i have for this crush i barely even know. Serendipity!!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Hello my dear,
What does your heart say? I mean, it's not really clear if you feel like you are really head over heels crazy for your boyfriend. If you are starting to have that flame dwindle down with your man and you don't know if you really love him, definitely end it with your boyfriend and be a single girl for awhile. Maybe you are wanting to get back out there and test the waters with some other fellas. Maybe your heart isn't completely committed to your man.
A crush may be an indication that you're unhappy in your relationship, but it could also just be a crush. Crushes are exciting, even (or especially) when you're with someone else. The thing is that you can never act on them if you're with someone else, you just need to keep your crushing from afar. A fantasy here and there won't kill you or your relationship, but having an emotional or physical affair will.
So, if you are really into your man and you want to keep that going, don't even worry about this crush. Focus your energy on your BF and let time take that crush away. A crush is just a crush and totally normal to get even when you're hooked.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): crush? wouldnt you go with your heart? crushes dont last.
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