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writes:Hey guys, be great to get ur advice on this. Im in a very loving and caring relationship with my boyfriend a year now. im 25 and he's 26. im going into my final year in college stusying animation, and recently have a great opportunity for a great career development. My ex is in an up an coming band, who are getting a lot of radiotime. He has asked me to do the cover art and all the promotional art work envolved (posters, photography, publicity..) Thing is ive been getting late night flirty texts off him. He's told me he wants me back and even stole a drunken kiss off me a few weeks ago (i was HAMMERED and feel terrible) And all this work im doin for him means i have to meet up with him sometimes but i think he's gettin confused and is startng to like me again.He's trouble and i know he likes the drama and the attention. ugh i dont know how id feel if i heard my boyfriend was meeting up with his ex, even if it was for work. im so confused. i feel like im doing the dirt somedays...although i know im not. My friends think i should not do any of the art work at all, and delete his number. But i reali want to get my name out there. its a hard business and opportunities dont come accross like this that often. I get the impression he wants my art work AND the flirts and dirtyness...and wont have one without the other. Should i tell my boyfriend that he's my ex? And be 100% honest? at the risk of upsetting him? how do u think i should handle this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah fuck him, thanks for the great advise :)
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 I don't think the cover art for an up an coming band is a career maker.
That said if you want the experience and want to do the work for your ex, then make sure he pays you for it first and foremost, half of your fee up front before the job is done, that is one way to keep this professional.
The next is to set clear boundaries with your ex by telling him you have a serious boyfriend and are absolutely not interested in fooling around with him. In your next meeting with your ex about the work, take your boyfriend with you and introduce the two of them. You don't have to ask permission of your ex to do this thing, just bring him along, you can say you have plans to go to a party or event together right after and then you can both get up and leave in an hour or what ever.
That should take care of all the issues you are concerne about.
Short of that, I would tell the ex to F off and delete his number, especially if he won't pay for your work, you aren't a charity worker.
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