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female
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30-35,
*pendy
writes:My ex bf broke up with me nearly a year ago. I loved him, I was loyal and true. But he cheated on me, lied to me and dumped me. So hurt.. I've never loved anyone the way I loved him.Anyway, his best friend is really nice guy. His gf cheated on him. and I thought I'd never do that to him.. I was so hurt that he was hurting but I pushed all that feeling aside cos I was with my ex.But am not with my ex anymore and I really like his friend and I know he likes me too cos of the way he looks at me but he didn't act on it cos I was with his friend.He even told my ex that I'm such a nice and loyal girl he wants a gf like me. He always told me when I look and smell good but my ex didn't even notice. What should I do? I can't get him out my head. My ex treated me like shit after I gave him my all so I don't care about his feelings
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (1 February 2012):
 No, dont go out with the friend. I understand you dont care about your ex, that is fine. But your crush is still friends with your ex, so clearly he still cares about that friendship and has a good relationship with your ex. Therefore if you came between your crush and your ex then it would be your crush that would be hurt, because he would lose a good friend. And I'm sure you dont want to hurt your crush now do you?
Dating anyone related or friends with your ex is a big no no, it will only cause drama and lots of hurt. Ignoring any hurt to your ex, your crush will still get hurt and he will lose a friend, so dont get involved and stay away.
Even if you did start going out with him, your ex would make your lives miserable, he wouldnt just roll over and let this happen. Imagine if your best friend dated your ex - you wouldnt be happy would you? So your ex isnt going to be happy either, so he wont just let it go and allow you to be together. It will be a nightmare, so just leave it alone and find someone else. There are plenty more guys out there!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2012): Don't have any worries about going out with him. You and your ex are now well and truly over, so you are free to do what you want. It doesn't matter that this guy and your ex are or were friends. Go for it and I would not hesitate. I can see no problem. There are no guarantees in life, but you might just have a lovely time together.
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