Should I give up on my emotionally barren husband?

I have been married for 12 years. My husband is practally very suportive but emotional and intimately barren. He is also verbally abusive and threatens physical violence. He has a bad temper and easily erupts. Two years ago I had a brief liaison with an old acquaintaince and was devasted when he said he didn't want to pursue the matter as I was married. I swore never to get my self into the situation again. However during a spell of pbeing controlled and bullied emotionally by my partner I was "courted" by an admirer who made me feel special and loved. Something which as always been missing from my marriage. I began an affair which lasted 8 months. I fell in love with this man, whi was kind and caring. However, the affair looked unending to my lover and he couldn't carry on seeing me go home every night, and he ended it although we do have some contact. I still love him, he is my soulmate, somehting which I never thought existed, but find it very difficult to split up my family. I have tried to deal witn one situation at a time by not seeing the lover and attending relate with my husband, but he just won't engage and does not accept that I need things from our marriage. He says I'm too sensitive and shouldn't take it too heart when he calls me a lesbian lying slag and doesn't apologies (ever in his life). I'm fightened of endin my marriage and him being right that I am stupid to expect to be fullfilled in my relationship. and unsure if my lover still cares as much as I do.

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