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writes:Right, recently my best friend has been doing things with her boyfriend like tossing off and fingering. My boyfriend and her boyfriend are best mates. My boyfriend has been saying that maybe we should give it a go, but I'm not sure what to do, or whether I want to do anything! Please help!
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reader, waciehawks +, writes (2 June 2009):
Don't do things because your friends are doing it or because your boyfriend wants you to do it. Get completely clued up on what these things involve and only do them when you feel you're ready. You'll want your first experiences of these things to be memorable and well worth it.
I also notice your age, 13-15. That's pretty young to be doing anything like this. I want you to make sure that you're comfortable enough with your boyfriend. If your not and he gets angry at you, or starts saying "but EVERYONE is doing it" or "If you loved me you would" then he isn't worth the wait. Teenage boys think with their dicks. Don't try and do it to make him happy. YOUR happiness is more important.
Don't cave into the peer pressure. There is no rush. You'll know when you're ready :) 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): First of all if your questioning about it, then dont do it. These are the type of things that you can only have once..with like a husband! I mean everyone is going to do it, but only YOU know if its the right time for YOU. I am only fourteen years old and am a virgin but from my friends sex experiences i feel as if teenagers always regret having sex, and doing all types of sexual inacments. I think you should wait until your ready, and also if your boyfriend wont wait then hes not worth it, it shows that hes only after one thing and thats a piece of ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): If you are WILING to try new things and u love your boyfriend go for it. I wouldn't do it at ur age though
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reader, Chickens347 +, writes (2 June 2009):
It would seem to me like you feel you should do these things just because your friend has!I would personally suggest that you don't do anything unless you feel 100% confident and ready. Remember just because you've found out your best friend has done stuff doesn't mean you need to get your boyfriend round and do stuff the day after! Obviously every couple is different and you should not feel pressured into doing things you don't want to do at the moment.Also ask yourself, if you were to do stuff would the word be spread around the school? I know that any guy around your age usually has one thing on their mind! It probably won't go until they've lost it either lol.I'm not trying to put you off, because it it is fun if you and your boyfriend both feel comfortable enough to express your love in such an intimate way. But just think this one through first =] X
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reader, Chickens347 +, writes (1 June 2009):
It would seem to me like you feel you should do these things just because your friend has!
I would personally suggest that you don't do anything unless you feel 100% confident and ready. Remember just because you've found out your best friend has done stuff doesn't mean you need to get your boyfriend round and do stuff the day after! Obviously every couple is different and you should not feel pressured into doing things you don't want to do at the moment.
Also ask yourself, if you were to do stuff would the word be spread around the school? I know that any guy around your age usually has one thing on their mind! It probably won't go until they've lost it either lol.
I'm not trying to put you off, because it it is fun if you and your boyfriend both feel comfortable enough to express your love in such an intimate way. But just think this one through first =] X
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Why do anything?.... when these wonderful young men will just compare notes...how fun is that? You guys gonna have group discussions eventually???
Does her boyfriend jump off the roof and pretend to fly too?? Why doesn't your boyfriend want to try that as well??
Sex in whatever form or fashion is something intimate between two people that care for and love and respect each other. Your friends boyfriends sharing his bed room antics with your boyfriend does not display that respect. It is something private.
If at your tender age, you want to try something with your BF, let it be your decision or both you guys.....not because some friend said he tried it and maybe he should to, it is not a competition, it is your body that you are talking about, not something to be conquered and experimented upon...your body....yours.
13-15...sex??? should not be on the menu...hikes, movies, getting to know each other, group activities....
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