Should I end this "tradition" with former co-worker?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I met this girl thirteen years ago and we worked together for three years. She was weird in many ways, but a nice person. We kind of became friends, but I was never comfortable with that friendship because of, how should I put it, the undeserved admiration she had for me. She acted like I was her idol, putting me on a pedestal, copying my every move (quite literally), bringing me gifts and talking about me as of I were some kind of a saint. It was making me very uncomfortable because I am not the person she was making me out to be. When I left the company, I was relieved she was no longer in my life. I haven’t seen her or talked to her in ten years. I have no idea what has been going on in her life and she has no idea what has been going on in mine. Yet, every single holiday I get a text message from her, like “Merry Christmas!” or “Happy Easter!” or “Happy birthday!”. I always reply and always remember her birthday too. But it feels so ridiculous and pointless. It just reminds me of a time in my life when I was very unhappy. If we are not in contact, why do this? It is highly unlikely we will cross paths ever again and I am not interested in pursuing this friendship. Will it make me a bad person if I put an end to this? I’d like to get some opinions to help me with this dilemma. Thank you.

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