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Should I distance myself from my boyfriend while I sort out my mental health issues?

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Question - (22 December 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 23 December 2013)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear Aunts and Uncles,

I hope I can receive some advice or opinion from others.

A few weeks or so ago I spent time in a psychiatric hospital. I had a break down and was diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder because of trauma suffered as a child(wont go into too.much detail) and some ocd behaviours(cleaning). I came home but had to attend a day clinic, everything was okish and thought I could handle things without medication so I stopped. I came clean to my psychiatrist and it was suggested I go back in to hospital but voluntary. I went in for a few days and took medications again but my dosage was changed. I felt my mood change and in a dark place. Spoke to psychiatrist again and she changed to original benefits. Its only in last day or two I am feeling the benefit. My mood is evening out.

I suppose what I'd like to ask is my boyfriend and best friend at times over last few months I was not very kind to. I would have emotional outbursts but he has always been very understanding. My most recent outburst was this week, and after considering everything I thought the kind thing to do was radio silence not for me but for him. To give him a break, peace and until I am mentally better or adjusted. He said whatever I need and has been wonderful. Am I doing the right thing?. I am doing it for him. I will miss him terribly.

Also side note he suggested on more than one occassion if I was bi polar, I asked to be assessed again and when I go back to clinic after xmas I ll have more construtive answers. I was told with ptsd can be similar to bi polar. My psychiatrist wants further assessments but thinks could be likely I am bi polar also so kind of up in air at moment. If I am bi polar is it not best I just remove myself from his life?. He does not need that stress.

Thank you.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2013):

Thank you for answering.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2013):

as an OCD person, I can assure you that your partner wants to be involved in your healing process. Already had a severe ROCD where I asked my gf everyday "do I love you?". To get rid of my thoughts, I started a little exercise, where you take a decision and go forward, suppress whatever your mind tries to tell you, your mind is not health, trust issues.

totally exclude your partner will apart you two somehow, an unnecessary apart. when you love someone, you're ready to cope with problems. you truly love the person that you let in and break your walls and see strict conceptions. also, you could let him take his decision whether he wants or not to be a part of this.

if you bother enough to come here, you care.

this website helped me a lot to deal with manias -

remember, those are only psychosis symptoms.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (23 December 2013):

Ciar agony auntI think before you make big decisions for his own good you owe it to him to at least give him a vote.

If you decide you want some space for YOUR well being, well that's a different matter.

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