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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I keep attracting older guys, like in their 30's, I'm 17. I work at a family business and get noticed by a few older guys a couple times a month. Sometimes they give me their myspace, phone number, or just...call up the store and have a little conversation with me. I've been invited for a jog (declined), just to take a walk(36 year old, declined)..I'm trying to figure out if i'm kind of instigating it. This other one, gave me his myspace and he's like "look me up." So i do, then we hit a conversation through messaging, then through IM. and then he says we should hang out sometime. hes 33 btw(and he knows i'm 17, in fact, i guess they just consider age a number cuz it doesn't really bother them). Should I continue talking to customers outside of work, or will that be considered inappropriate for business purposes? I don't want to be rude by completely ignoring them. My Parents don't know any of this happens because it occurs when they leave me to handle the store alone. When they are there, I tend to not try and have a mini conversation w/ them, because its kinda awkward for me. thanks for spending part of your holiday to answer this question :D.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (26 December 2007):
 I can sympathsize with you. I have this issue alot myself and it sucks. I attract a lot of females, they always want my number or to just meet up. I always have t decline cause its bad for business. Business and pleasure do not mix what so ever sad to say. I work a shit load of hours and me meeting someone outside of work is unlikly as is I work and sleep.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (26 December 2007):
 In a case like this where it concerns not only you but the family business I would take it to your parents and talk over the situation.
It may not be the intention of these guys to be anything but honorable but I doubt it in every case.
It will protect you if your parents know and they may even take measures to make sure you are protected.
Being a parent of a 22 year old daughter I know that is what I would do just as any responsible parent should. Doc
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 December 2007):
 Hi,
There is a really TACKY old saying - "Don't s@#% where you eat." - It really means - "Don't dally with sexual liaison's in your place of business, because it's where you make your living to put food on your own table, and the fallout from a failed external relationship could affect that!". You have even MORE to deal with if it is a family business. Best to find people to date outside the "office". My wording wasn't meant to offend, hope that the analogy was eye-opening and helpful, apologies if it did offend. Best of the New Year to You!
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