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writes:I'm conflicted, I care for this guy we were together for three yrs. I found out he has another girlfriend now ( and may I say she and i could be twins with exception I'm not trying to be full of myself but I'm way more attractive than she is but our career goals and background are so similar it's scary), but the way he left me was awful. We had a situation of where we thought we could be potentially pregnant, he gives me the money to take care of it and never contacts me after I try to reach out to him to tell him that i've developed feelings for him (which at the time i didn't realize he had a girlfriend). He gives me no response. I just feel to continue something with someone for 3 yrs you have to have feelings for them, right. In the beginning he wanted a relationship i turned him down though based on the fact i had just gotten out of a extremely hurtful relationship with another guy. I just don't understand how could he be with me and this other girl at the same time without making it clear to one of us he was seeing other people! Had he just told me he was dating around I could accept it more. I'm still not over him and I think I still want to be with him but I do want to tell him how much pain he has put me through since he just up and left. Should I contact him to tell him how I feel or just let the past just be that and move on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Although it may seem painful not being with him now, believe me it will get better. You're feeling vulnerable as you're on your own, but you should start to enjoy this time. Take time to see friends, do things you enjoy doing and don't worry about men. When you are enjoying your own time and when you least expect it you'll meet someone else.
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reader, pinktopaz + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
Think about this: you're following a pattern. You wouldn't date him because of a past hurtful relationship and now you're pining over this guy that has also hurt you. I was in a very similar situation with a complete idiot like this dude, it's best to put it in the past and move on. It won't change anything and he'll still be a jerk. I know you want to let him know that what he did to you wasn't very "tactful" to say the least, but you won't get the answer or reaction that you're probably hoping for.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (2 November 2009):
 Besides a heart felt apology and him begging for forgiveness, breaking up with his girlfriend and starting a relationship with you, what exactly would you be hoping to accomplish?
You'd make yourself vulnerable, you'd be leading yourself and him into temptation and eventual heartache.
Let it go and move on.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (2 November 2009):
 He doesn't seem like he'd make very good boyfriend material, honestly.
I think you should move on.
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