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writes:I am now in a great relationship that started off a little bit rocky. I grew to care about him and he went back and forth with his feelings about me as a friend and we dated for a minute before he realized he wasn't in the space to do so, so we remained friends and then it grew to more. We've had talks about the past and he says he's here to prove to me that he's not going anywhere and I do trust him...he's done nothing to make me feel otherwise, but the other day I found myself counting the condoms that I had brought over to his house. When they were all there - I immediately felt ashamed that I had even looked. Our relationship has been built on total open communication and now I feel the need to confess to him that I did that, but I put myself in his shoes and I know I might be a little bummed that if he did it, thinking he doesn't trust me. I have confessional OCD too where I always feel the need to confess. Has anybody else done this where they have had a moment of insecurity like that for no real reason?
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 yes moments of insecurity are normal in relationships.we are only human and are prone to impulse behavior.but u do need to trust him becoz trust is the basis on any good relationship.at least u told him your feelings and confessed what u had done , now you both need to take each day at a time and trust in each other and if u feel insecure talk it over with him rather than snooping through his things.good luck!
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reader, Azula  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Dear everything has a reason. It is just there.You just need to think deep and search for it.As you have said you have an open communication, don't break it. You will need to confess, if not now it will just a continuous murmur in your mind until you'll have the need to do so.Confess calm and relax and try to create a nice atmosphere before you open up. If your not ready yet. Know what will be his reaction by asking him some questions connected with your problem or somewhat related.
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