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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been seeing a guy for three months now and whilst he is a lovely lovely guy, I don't think we are right for each other long term.I decided last week that I should give it one last good shot with him to see if we are suited and will last long term. He went away for a few days last week and sent a couple of texts while he was away. He got back on Tuesday (its now Sunday) and I haven't heard from him since he returned. He usually calls or texts every day or two so this is a change in behaviour. He has seemed very keen and attentive up to this point. Now I am not sure if I should call him and have a conversation about where this is/isn't going or should I just be grateful that I can move on and not have to face an awkward conversation?I want to be mature about this and not hurt him but maybe he's quite happy?Any advice welcome!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): It very much appears as though he shares your views about it not being right..if he hasn't attempted to see you then I don't see a purpose in telling him it's not right because wouldn't you say its understood by both parties? Beating him to the punchline just looks childish and insecure.
The mature thing would be to say that to a person who was beating down your door for involvement so you could free him to pursue others. Another mature thing is to see when someone doesn't want to further a relationship with you and free your thoughts and communication up for a man who does.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): Leave him be, and enjoy you which of course will also include beautiful stimulating quality company of friends, family and another/other men of romantic interest. It's so healthy and refreshing. God Bless.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 hi
i reckon just leave things be. you are not really into him and it looks as if he has changed his mind about you for some reason, maybe realised while he was away from you that he didn't miss you like he thought he would or something. if he contacts you about it, you can have the grown up conversation then. if not, i say just don't worry about it. 3 months is short anyway
xx
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reader, EPocket  +, writes (16 January 2011):
 i do like it that u know wat you want out of ur relationship ..
i admire that in you . and look very mature to me :)
be honest and drop him a call and u`ll uncover everything nothing better than this to do :)
both of you seems old enough to judge things with there brains .
a contact is the best thing u can do now and find out wat is all abt . maybe he needs ur help ;) or maybe .. no one can tell u anything here . just call to know :)
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