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female
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anonymous
writes:My husband has a new male friend - and he often socialises with him. My husband is very popular at work and I'm happy for him.It's the nature of this friendship that worries me though - not the fact he's friends with the guy (I've only met him once, and he seems like a great guy!) - his behaviour towards this guy doesn't seem like a "normal" friendship.He's bought this guy designer suits, champagne, a and packs of briefs and boxer shorts from Marks and Spencers, Top Man and River Island.I've tried to find out why my husband does this, but he just ranted at me and said it's nothing to worry about.It seems odd - why would a guy buy another guy clothes and underwear as presents? I just don't get it!Isn't it a bit odd what he's doing?? how should I deal with this without him getting angry?Jennifer
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): I guarantee you that heterosexual men certainly do not buy each other underwear (or clothes for that matter). You already know what is really going on but you just don't want to admit it.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (10 January 2009):
 He has to be honest and come out and admit what he is really up to with his new friend!
Not for one minute would i feel comfortable with this if this were my hubby and his friend men don't buy one another Designer Suits i mean how much is he actually spending here?
I would not be bothered whether i got him angry or not i would want the truth first and foremost and i feel you might be better having this chat sooner rather than later because this is not normal for a married man sorry.
Gina
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 My bff L and I are very very close, we buy each other clothes, even underwear and bras, and I've gotten her booze and cooked for her (and her for me, many times) before too.
It depends on the person, what kind of gift giver they are. It doesn't necessarily mean anything's fishy. You should probably talk to your husband in a really respectful and polite way and tell him that those sorts of gifts kind of bug you 'cause it seems like there's some kind of sexual undertone to the presents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Wow... sounds VERRRRY suspicious. Not to worry you but that sounds like something's going on - the fact he ranted at you and got angry makes it seem even more likely that he's cheating on you. He may be secretive and angry becuase he's finding it hard to deal with hurting you and finding out that he's gay. Not prying but does he like anal? If he expresses a new interest in it then he MAY be with this man in a sexual manner, but that's not the only sign. Why don't you ask him sensitively? It may be the only way you can find out and do what's best for you. Good luck. x
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (9 January 2009):
Hi,
Have you posted about this before?
Gina
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female
reader, NurseBetty85 +, writes (9 January 2009):
 It may seem suspicious because you don't know this man
verry well to judge him. Now I have a female friend that gives me money when I need it and even buy me things. We are both straight with boyfriends so I know she's not coming on to me. I just see her as a good friend thats thoughful and sharing.
I think the best way to get to know this man is to see if he would like to spend time with you and your husband. Like to go see a show, out to dinner or even a movie. Now if they keep saying no, then there may be something to hide.
Because being around you and in your face, they may feel guilty.
Don't stress out to much..It can be Harmless.
Good Luck, TakeCare!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): The guy is giving my husband designer suits, champagne, briefs and boxer shorts - not the other way around.
He's even bought my husband fine Italian food as well and cooked him an Italian meal whilst I was out at work!
My husband's never shown any attraction to other males before.
Jennifer
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (9 January 2009):
 It does sound odd indeed. Although I do have a friend who I am very fond off and we have known each other for years, I do give her presents but nothing too kinky.
Underware and champaigne presents sound like it could have a sexual underlining.
I would be concerned. Have your husband previously been attracted to other males?
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reader, ezfeeling +, writes (9 January 2009):
Its time to turn in super sleuth my dear.... And make sure you use protection, I'd be willing to bet your guy is on the "down low".....
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