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female
age
41-50,
*oraatuha
writes:I just shut out my boyfriend .....I have gone completely silent ...because I am tired. ..I am tired of giving ....all my energy is well spent ....his a very needy emotional demanding person and before I wouldn't mind listening, giving, helping, offering advice, however it just occured to me like I might do all this all my life ...Johnson has a complicated personal life that I have to tolorate and live with .....if we are to be together ....howevi have taken it into account and have been waiting for him to make changes ....but all he does is plan and dream .....I think he should be old n bold enough to make decisions but all he does is ponder n plan as I listen ....however am exhausted from patiently waiting andhave just burnt out .....I dont know why and I dont know if its the right thing to do...but I dont have the strength to talk to him too ...his taken it very personaly n has gone quite ...thinking I will call or initiate a conversation but am afraid I won't. Am tired of tolerating, caring, loving ...I need someone who can be there for me as much as I be there for them.So is it normal for me to just be emotionally drained ...Do I take a break off the relationship?Do I let go?Does that happen in relationships...by the way its a 2year relationship.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (29 October 2012):
 Hi
Its one thing being supportive its another entirely different thing when you are a sponge for all his problems and issues.
Yes you have done right, now you can focus on yourself and what you want without being constantly dragged down.Its not worked out so time to move on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 You are doing the right thing. He is emotionally draining you and everyone has a limit, not just you. At one point there is no energy left if he just takes and takes and never gives. A relationship should nourish you, build you up, give you strenght and give to you. This relationship is sucking you dry. It isn't right, and you are doing the right thing by drawing the line.
You might find this useful, read my answer to this question, as it is about the same thing, drawing the line when dealing with a "vampire" who sucks out your energy:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/has-my-boyfriend-really-changed.html
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reader, human_male  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 You've made your decision and it sounds like it's the right one. You need to do what's right for you. If you're not happy in a relationship and it's not fulfilling then of course you should walk way.
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