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writes:So one day my boyfriend asks me to go onto his computer and check to see if he had gotten any new emails, so I went onto his computer and checked it for him.Also he had his internet up and so I just clicked on it. I noticed that his history was open and so I looked at it. When I looked, I noticed that he went to all of these meet local singeles in your area, alternative lifestyle.com, look at girls on their web cams and many more sites like that.Should I be conserned that my boyfriend wants to go out and meet other girls, and does it mean that he thinks he needs more out of our relationship, and that I'm just not giving him that something? Is he bored with me?PLEASE help I'm not sure what to make of this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Am around the same age as you and has had the same problem but instead of it being girls around my age, he been looking at older women. I really dont know how to approach him and its been going on too long . . . I have asked whether is still in love with me and that everything fine and he simply answers yes. He started messgaing them but I carnt figure out a good way to confront him without causing an arguement, I hope you found out a way. The doubt always stays at the back of your head. Good Luck x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust for the record...the sites are ones that you would go and hook up with someone and meeting them. and it wasn't an email that I saw it in, it was in his internet history.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I'll take the middle road here. I am married have been for 8 years and sometimes I just click on those sites to read the ads not b/c I am looking for someone new but b/c I am bored/curious and honestly they can be be sort of funny and some dating sites have options for searching only for platonic types of relationships. Also if someone else uses his computer or just has access to it well that might just explain it too. The fact that he lets you check his email means 1) Either that he really trusts you or 2) Like someone said he wanted you to see the sites and sort of set you up. Just go ahead and ask in a non-accusing way. I wouldn't jump to conclusions yet though, cause that's not really enough to go on. If in fact he was looking for someone else, then its nothing lacking in you, its something lacking in him so don't blame yourself for it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 I would add that maybe he asked you to check his e-mail knowing that you would look at the internet history. Maybe he wanted you to know he was checking those sites.
In any case, I don't think that anyone in a happy relationship would be visiting dating sites. You need to think carefully about your relationship.
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reader, :):):)  +, writes (29 April 2008):
It could just be that he was curious what these websites were like or they may just have been pop ups he'd clicked on randomly.Does he not share a computer? If so, it could have been someone else who had accessed these sites. Try not to worry, lots of people click on things out of curiosity.
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reader, kimblebee90 +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think that you need to have a serious chat with your boyfriend. If he is looking at other girls and considering meeting them then I think that he isnt good enough for you. Any boyfriend should want you and only you. Just talk 2 him about how he feels towards you and if he is bored, then try and suggest things to spice it up!
Let me know what u decide to do
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