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kimblebee90
writes:Rite guys.. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months now. But I've met some new friends when I went to college and didn't really have any this good at school. I am really ejoying goin out more and am wondering whether I would enjoy being single again. I'v tried talkin 2 him about it but all he does is get REALLY upset and jealous and then I feel sorry for him.. I know I should just get a backbone and tell him out straight, but I don't want to break his heart. I am just torn. I love him, I just don't know if I am IN LOVE with him anymore. But I am scared of making a mistake if i am not sure what i want... Any help is greatly appreciated!!!!
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reader, kimblebee90 +, writes (30 April 2008):
kimblebee90 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all the comments guysThey have helped me loadsI'll keep you posted on what I decide to do=]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): i'm actually in te same situation right now. ive been with my bf for a year and i love him i really do it's just that i don't feel i'm IN love with him anymore. im 21 so i also get to think how would my life be if i were single. i just don't want to make the wrong decision. i wish i could be more helpful, or helpful at all jaja but i can't. i believe it is a decision you have to take on your own. just don't rush it. take your time to think how much do you reallu love your bf and if being single is what you really want. sometimes it my sound awesome the idea of being single and having fun, but you can have fun with your bf also. try to think if it's possible for you to fall in love again with him, if you ever were,,, and if you WANT to. if the answer to any of that is no, i wouldn't take it any further. you are just going to end up hurting him and hurting yourself. right now the problem seems to be your friends and the fact taht you want to have fun. but if you don't love him and still do nothing, anything can turn into this problem.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (30 April 2008):
 Life means taking chances, and taking responsibility for the chances we take.
It is very clear to me that you don't love your boyfriend anymore. Tell him the truth, so he can rebuild his life. And, if you make a mistake, well, accept it.
The alternative is NOT dating anyone else. It is very clear that is not what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): you should definatly go out there and enjoy your life as a single girl, it will be hard but all through your life there will be loads of guys like ur current boyfriend who wont want the relationship to end, but youll realise that this is just emotionall blackmail and youll end up resenting him if you stay with him, your probably comfortable with him but think of the freedom youll have once hes gone. if you were "in love" with him you wouldnt even contemplate ending it, seems like you love the guy and care deeply about how he feels but thats not enough chick, go out there and enjoy your new found freedom while you can
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I'm currently having the same problem myself, only i made the mistake of opting for the single life before splitting with my bf (I cheated on my bf- don't do that, it will only complicate matters!). You need to weigh up whether what you want from a single lifestyle will make up for losing your bf. Often people want the single life, then when you've got it, it isn't all that exciting (and you yearn for the security and compassion of a committed relationship).Remember though, we're both young and I'm not sure long-term relationships at our age are not necessarily what we desire. We all have this feeling inside that what if we look back in ten years time and realise we missed out on our 'youth' (if your definition of youth involves sleeping aroung, unprotected sex and drink!). Maybe you should try to re-kindle what you had at the start of your relationship. The reason most people stray is for the excitement.At the end of the day, this is your choice and no one can make that for you. two choices- your stable loving relationship or the excitement of the single life? Make a list of the pros and cons (even if you feel that you still can't decide after making the list, follow the one with the most advantages!) You wrote the list, therefore it will lead you towards the most sensible option!
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