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writes:I am currently friends with a guy from work, and over the last 3 months it has escalated to something more. We've had a few sleep overs and gone out on dates, but never really established that the relationship was any more than two people enjoying each others company. We would email and message each other on a daily basis, and it has been quite fun. He's terribly sweet and always seems to take an interest in my life. We have been keeping the relationship secret to prevent gossip at work. He has gone on vacation for 3 weeks, and whilst we are not formally going out, he hasn't messaged me, and I guess I do miss him. I like him very much, and he has been very caring. I don't want to hassle him by messaging him, or make him feel like I'm checking on him or anything. Should I assume that he has moved on and doesn't feel the same way about me? I feel quite silly having to ask such a question, but I dont want to feel so crushed if that is what is going to happen anyway.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 If he is a way on holiday well then maybe he just has no time to message you or to check in on you, don't just assume that he is with another woman and that is why he has not contacted you. Some people when they go on holiday they just want a break and don't bother contacting anyone at home. From what you have described though I don't think there is anything serious going on between the both of you and I think you really need to talk to him. When he comes back from vacation you need to be straight with him and tell him that you have feelings for him so that you know where you stand and so you won't end up completely hurt.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 Is he still on vacation? if so he'll probably be in touch for a booty call when he gets back.
Sounds like a FWB situation to me.
IF you thought it was more or wanted more you may want to talk to him about it. Protect yourself if you are starting to care....
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