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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This guy I like flirts with me all the time and I flirt back because he is cute, funny and brainy, he has asked me round to his flat next weekend to watch a DVD, kiss and a cuddle he says, the problem is I thnk he has a girlfriend and she is out of town next weekend, should I go to his, ask him if he is single or ignore him. The thing is I don't want to scare him of by saying are you single, he once said to me he just likes havng fun nothing serious, any ideas, I think he has a girlfriend and just wants me to be as a bit on the side but I don't want to just ask in case he is actually single.
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reader, always.curious.ray.  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 ask one of his friends about it...
or just flat out say hey are u single or not
and be like [if ure fine with it] than be like im okay with it if u are i just want to know
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (16 January 2009):
 Well it sounds like you are really concerned about a girlfriend being somewhere. I wuold suggest that you try finding out if he really does before you persue this. You might try asking around to some people who may know him but only those people you can trust to not tell your business. This can be the tricky part.
If he has already told you he wanted have you over to "kiss and cuddle" and had commented that he doesn't want anything serious, he just wants to have fun. That might be a reason to stay away from this type of relationship. He oculd be luring you into a false type friendship with expectance of sex in the end. This will not give you what you are truely looking for. I am guessing that you are attracted and like him but your concerns may have real reason to be looked into further.
Don't allow an attraction to let you be USED in any manner. If this young man can't show you his intentions are better than to treat you like a plaything, it may be best that you turn down his offer and make your way to find someone who is going to be more interested in giving you a real relationship. If you settle for less than you desire you will definately get less than you deserve. Give yourself more credit and wait on the guy who is going to give of himself completely. One who is mature enough to know that fun and games isn't all there is and that you won't be HIS BOOTY CALL OR HOLLA BACK GIRL. YOU DESERVE TO HAVE IT ALL!
BEST WISHES AND REMEMBER THAT GOOD THINGS HAPPEN IN TIME TO THOSE WHO WAIT AND THAT GOD DOES DELIVER, BUT IN HIS TIME, NOT THINE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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