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*w1968
writes:I had a lengthy relationship with a man who turned out to have a double life. When I found out I gave him an ultimatum to commit to me or walk away and he went. We had a child together who is now 3, but the other woman couldnt have children, which is the reason he strayed. I dated a few men since but found they were disinterested in my daughter and didnt want to get involved with trips to the park etc which my life revolves around. Now though, I have started a new job which i love and find I just dont have the time or enthusiam for a relationship. I want to ask my daughter's dad if he would like to come back on a sort of 3 day a week relationship such as we had before I found out about his other life. I know he would never leave his 'other' woman as she is very rich and treats him too well. He adores his daughter and loves spending time with her and doing things and I know i would be happy with him being here just some of the time. Without asking him straight out how could I make this happen? He hates women making the first move in any way and likes women to be 'girly' rather than forward as he thinks it shows bossiness which he hates. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): This guy is a complete asshole and a cheater and a liar. He also sounds controlling and a real horses ass. I can't understand why you would want any sort of a relationship with him, but if he is your child's father, why don't you pursue child support or what ever it is called in the UK so that he will provide for your daughter, and then I wouldn't have any sort of relationship except one of seperate lives and visitation with his kid.
Are you nuts? Seriously, why would you want to settle for what you are suggesting? You deserve to have someone in your life who truly loves you, or a life where you stand on your own and be a happy single woman with the option of dating any man she wants.
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