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female
age
36-40,
*wt_Chick
writes:Hi,My problem is that i feel like i have become a bad girlfriend and i dont deserve my boyfriend anymore. We been together for 7 months and up until the 5th months things were wonderful, but majority of the problems stems from my side of the relationship, my parents don't really like him and i have pressured him into trying to build a relationship with them, he has had to dealt with me letting go of my ex and i have cause him great distress since i have always been jealous of that his bestfriend is was his first love and that he might have feelings for her still. To make things worse i passed on an STD from my ex to him, i wasn't aware i had it. He has still remain with me after all that, but i can feel him growing distant and he says so as well, that it is because he is trying to deal with the STD. We recently had a big fight when he told me he talks to his bestfriend about how he is dealing with it and not me because he knows i am stressed out about it already and doesnt want to add more stress. Now he will find out that i have locked his email account because i became suspicious that he changed his email password after he gave me access to all of them. I am afraid he will get tired of all the drama and leave me, i try to calm down about stuff but i still find myself creating fights. What is wrong with me? I have never cause problems in my relationships but only this one. Am i really a bad girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): One of a two things will happen for a multitude of reasons, either he will leave you or he will not. If you keep pushing him, starting fights and all the drama he is more likely to leave.
My guess is that he is freaked out about getting the STD, probably feels betrayed or that his life has changed and he probably blames you. What you have to do now is be as supportive of the stress that he is going through. If he chooses to talk to his ex because he does not want to stress you out he is either telling the truth or he is talking to her because he blames you and is angry. You have to talk to him and get him to trust you. If he is angry at you then you have to be ready to accept that and listen, not fight back, not say you did not know as that does not matter, he is mad he got it from you. You have to be his friend. This might make him come around to you.
Now this all said it might be too late and he might leave, and that is okay too, you will both move on and your lives will be okay and you have to be prepared for that.
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reader, ImBringingRandomBack  +, writes (16 January 2009):
Ok, Hunni. It Will Be Ok. Just have a nice bubble bath and eat some chocolate. Have a girlie night in, and watch chick flicks. All you got to do is relax and talk to him, ok?? Tell him how u feel. You need to talk to him, sit down and just chat, and if he tries to kiss you, give him a peck, and talk again, yeahh?? Ok!! =D x
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