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writes:Hi, my ex has been dating this other girl for a few months now, but recently they have been arguing a lot and last week he told one of my best friends that he didnt know what to do or how to feel, he said he didnt want to speak to me because he wouldnt know what to say. the thing is, i am still madly in love with him and seeing him with this other girl is killing me, but seeing them argue is making me happy...is this wrong? and why wont he speak to me and tell me how he is feeling? shall i speak to him first, and ask him about things? or do i leave it? I dont want to let this opportunity to pass me by without either one of us doing anything about it. Please help!!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 April 2008):
Don't speak to him.
If they are having problems, and his Ex turns up it could make them break up, BUT he could blame you for the break up and it would mean he has 2 Ex's with huge amounts of bad feeling and he may decide it's not worth the hassle to be around either of them.
What I would do is get a mutual friend to pass on a message that you hope he's ok and were sad to hear he's having a bad time. But get them to say you are staying away from him as you don't want to add to his problems.
Then you get to look like a caring and lovely friend.
If they are having problems then he will probably be single soon anyway. Then you can meet him for a drink and see what happens. Just be really careful that you don't get back with him too soon or you'll just end up being his rebound girl.
Be his mate for a while and then start dating him again, you can win him back if you are patient.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Nikkii Babyee +, writes (28 April 2008):
 heyah :) ehm i really dont think that you being happy that hes agruing with his gf is wrong i think its a feeling that we get when we really hate the situation! and i think that he wont speak to you and tell you his problems because he doesnt want to rub ur nose in the situation or even maybe make himself think that he stil likes you because in situations guys can feel really vulnerable too and he kight take to you again because he likes the affection! i really feel that you shud make the efort and talk to him first give him a text even ask him if things are ok because uv noticed he doesnt look himself! it wont hurt like the worst he can do is not text back and at least then you can say youve made the effort to make things better!
good luck hun and if yous r meant to be trust me yous will be together :)
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