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writes:Hi everyone. I would like to ask for some advice. Recently I realized that I've fallen for a guy. Of course, I can't be 100% sure it's something more than a huge crush, but I find that I simply cannot stop thinking about him, my hands feel weak when I think about him, I've even lost my appetite and I simply can't concentrate on anything lately because all I think about is him. I get this weird feeling in my chest each time I do think about him, and basically the past few nights I haven't managed to sleep for more than 4 hours.I met him through some of my friends; Firstly, I saw him at my friend's birthday party. We didn't really talk a lot but he immediately caught my eye and I felt strange around him. I didn't pay much attention to him then, because I barely got to know him. However, he was still in my mind the following days.The other night I went out with my friends again and he was there too. We talked a little, he seemed like a really nice and polite guy. But again, I didn't get to know him enough to really start liking him. However, he still was on my mind long after then. Eventually, some days ago, me and some of my friends decided we'd go to a theme park to have some fun. He ended up coming as well. I was feeling rather nervous around him, and being shy and everything, didn't talk to him much at first. However, we ended up waiting for the others at some point and we started talking. Immediately, I stopped being nervous and felt really comfortable with him. We talked about random stuff, like, favourite music genre, exams, internet, movies...That's when I realized I had started falling for him. Later on, we walked side by side while the others walked together. We would still talk about all sorts of things, we got on most of the rides together. There was this ride where it was just the two of up high and we kept on joking about things and getting to know each other a little more and laughed a lot together. For some reason I got the urge to touch him or kiss him quite a lot of times, but I knew it wouldn't be right. We looked at each other and smiled tons of times. We realized we had a lot in common, too. In the end, I gathered all my courage and managed to ask him his number, he gave it to me willingly and I gave him mine. On the way back, he had to go back home quickly, so he went up and kissed my cheek and told me that we should go out sometime, and that he was really glad to meet me. I must have looked like a tomato back then, I was blushing so much.Me and the others went to have dinner somewhere afterwards, and I got a txt from him in which he said "Thank you for the company you kept me, I had a really fun and great time with you. You're a very lovable and fun person. If you don't mind, I would like to dedicate -insert song title here- to you, I'm sure you know it and why. Goodnight and sweet dreams." My heart just about melted right then. I went back home and downloaded the song and listened to it over and over, and afterwards I just couldnt' sleep. I ended up not getting sleep at all, because I was thinking about him and the time we spent together.The thing is, I recently learned that he was dating my ex best friend for a while. Their relationship lasted only two weeks or so, and according to my friends, they weren't even clearly a couple. I'm not in good terms with my ex best friend, and I'm afraid it'd cause a lot of drama if I got into a relationship with you. Yet, I cannot stop thinking about him.What is your advice on this? And, do you really think he might be interested in me? What do you think I should do in order to approach him more, or shouldn't I?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 September 2009):
He likes you, so go for it. Your ex best friend is an EX best friend, so I don't see how that can be an issue. Best wishes.
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (24 September 2009):
 I say go for it. He sounds like a nice guy, and he enjoys your company: heck, he dedicated a song to you!I shouldn't worry hugely about your ex-best friend. You're right, it could cause some drama, but frankly, if they were never really a couple in the first place, I don't see why she should get so upset. Are you actually trying to rebuild your friendship?Good luck! Though it sounds like you'll be fine, really :)
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