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writes:Please please help, this is a bit of a long story.I haev a friend, z, and we're very close. last year she moved away to egypt. we have kept in touch.well, for a very long time, ever since i was really little, i have always been into graphic designing (photoshop, basically) and all of a sudden, she's taking photoshop classes!that sounds really silly, but let me explain. she has her own style and everything. when she came to visit me she kept badgering me about teaching her how to use photoshop. i didn't because of the limited time we had and we spent it shopping and other things. now she's decided to take photoshop classes and she keeps reminding me about it!it is really, really pissing me off -- how do i tell her to please stop doing so? i know i can't keep her from taking a photoshop class but it seems that everyone seems to always steal my thunder! Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 She probably keeps bringing it up, because she assumes that you would be someone who she could talk about Photoshop with! She probably thinks you have all sorts of insight and conversation around Photoshop, since it's an interest you both share.
You definitely need to lighten up and be excited for your friend. She's got a new hobby, she's into it and it's something that you can talk to her with! Why don't you send her some of your best Photoshop work and she can send you hers? You're the authority on it anyway, she can come to you with homework classes. Do you think she's taking this class to purposely piss you off or something, or does her interest seem genuine?
Definitely chill out and don't work yourself up about getting your thunder stolen. The only way that will happen is if she ends up getting super rich and famous for being a graphic designer in your same line of work. Not to mention, she's all the way in Egypt - that limits your competition! You keep doing your own thing... obviously you're good at it, you inspired her to learn a thing or two! Let her admire you and take a class.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 June 2009):
 You INSPIRED your friend with your creativity. Good for you! If you are truly talented no one can take that from you. Ever.
One in a while YOU can inspire others. Hopefully you inspire them to grow and do good things. To learn and challenge themselves. That in itself is a gift. She stole nothing. Unless she "lifted" one of your manips, sigs.. whatnot and claimed it as her own.
Cheer her on. If you have certain little creative "secrets" you don't have to share, but think of any famous artist out there and then take the time to see how many other artists they have inspired over time.
Be proud not upset.
PS Sign all your artwork :)
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Hi,
firstly i think you should be flattered.
you have a talent with photoshop and your friends picked it up and is wanting to learn more, only because you've managed to open her heart to it.
Now, i know this must really annoy you, you must be thinking, why would a friend copy me? but u have to think she must look up to you, admire you to copy your style!
you cant stop her taking photoshop classes, but u can tell her how you've noticed that she's trying to gain attention from doing photoshop and is she really that serious about it? or doing it to just to annoy you?
just be honest with her, rather then bottling this up.
Im sure you are very talented, and you dont have to worry about anyone stealing your thunder, you have your own style and your artisic works WILL stand out and impress.
Good luck!
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