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writes:Well, I really need some advice here as I have no idea what to do, if anything at all! Please bare with me... this is a little bit long.A little background. I moved to a new town about 6 months ago for work. As it normally happens, the people you become friendly with the most are those you work with. About 3 months ago, I started noticing this woman as more than just a friend. I started noticing the little looks that I was getting, the change in body language, etc. when she was around me, so I started paying more attention to her, got to know her better. I found out that we had a lot in common, could talk for hours, and generally enjoyed each others company.About 2 months ago, I told her that I liked her, as more than a friend. It was about 2 or 3 days after that I found out through another friend she was thinking on moving town to get away from umm, stuff!After I found this out, we went out a few times, went to some parties, and slept together a few times.About a month ago she told me she was defiantly leaving town. After moving she would text or talk to me every day, and now almost nothing. I don't want to be the needy guy thats calling every day, but I really miss her! She also told me she only sees me as a friend and nothing more.Last week I mentioned to her that I was potentially leaving the country as part of job and she said she wants to go with me.My question is am I being stupid thinking that there could still be something there? As well as everything else that I've mentioned a friend of hers also said that she liked me, and another of her friends thought I was her bf when she introduced me. I don't want to be a fool chasing something that is not going to happen, yet I don't want to lose something that could be so good. Was she just saying that she just wants to be friends because she was leaving?
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reader, Midge  +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Sounds like she is as confused as you are.
I admire you for taking the first step and telling her how you feel. I wouldnt think that that would want to make her move town though.
It sounds like there could possibly be something there, but its her move. You made the first move by telling her how you felt, and she responded by saying she just wants to be friends.
If you really feel that there is something there, then I would suggest that you meet with her and discuss where she wants this to go. Does she just want to be a travel buddy, or is she trying to tell you in a round about way that she does feel something for you, but just doesnt know how to say it.
I can understand where you are coming from though. She doesnt seem to know herself exactly what she wants, however it could just be that she just doesnt know how to tell you.
I really do think you need to meet with her and find out her intentions and what she is looking for. If its a travel buddy then I suggest you make the move alone because as soon as she meets someone she "loves" then she'll drop you. And that won't be fair on you!
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