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*adstringrunnner
writes:she is the same age as me and in truth weve known each other for about 4 1/2 weeks and we've "liked" each other for just as long. well about a week ago she broke up with her boyfiend so i asked if she'd go out with me and she said yes. well ever since then i feel like she has been the only thing that truly has any effect on my happyness or not. she has made me the happiest guy in the world and up until 3 days into our relationship i had no reason not to be.3 days into our relationship she told me she was pregnant (not from me we'd never moved that far, it was from her last boyfriend) and it got me thinking that if that is something to pull me away from her it is on her end not mine because i feel that am madly in love with her and there is no one who can stop my feelings for her. well two days ago she broke up with me because she has too much going on she still loves me and i love her what should we do?
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (15 November 2009):
badstringrunnner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey reporting in to say this relationship has passed on i need help with a new one thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): I'm sorry but i agree that it's hard to be in love in such a short amount of time, you can't known her well enough to really be in love with her yet. I'm sure you do have very strong feelings for her and in time it very well could be love. But it's very hard to try and be in a relationship when she has so much going on. I'm sure she is stressed over this pregnancy and it's honestly better for her and for you if she tries and straightens her life out a little and adding a new relationship to that can be even more stressing so i can understand why she decided it was best to break up. I know it won't seem like it but you need to find a way to be happy on your own if you are happy with yourself and your life your relationships will be a lot happier, but that might be something you will only learn with age. On a final note if you truly want to be with her, just give her time and be prepared for lots and lots of pain and hard work. Like it or not she's pregnant by some other guy so no matter what for the life of that child he will most likely be part of her life as well and that will mean extra stress for any relationships she has.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (27 September 2009):
 A month and you are like this?
Come on, its a little crush, not love.
You have no concept of what love is, and neither does she.
Be lucky you dont have to deal with thsi chick's baggage, because you can move on and not be suckered in with the time honored "ready made family"
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and run from this girl pronto!
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reader, badstringrunnner +, writes (27 September 2009):
badstringrunnner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for your help
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reader, Helples +, writes (27 September 2009):
 If the fact of her having a baby from someone else doesn't bother you, and you're willing to be with her, why does she have to break up with you? If she loves you and you love her as much as to not even leave, which is great of you especially at a time like this, then stay with her if she wants you to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): 3 days is nothing. Get over it and move on. You cannot love someone after so little a time. Consider it a lucky escape.
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (27 September 2009):
At this point my friend the only thing you can do is give it some time. She is young and pregnant. That makes it complicated and well pregnancy will mess with a girls emotions. Since you haven't been with her long at all I would be hesitant to give her every fiber of your being just yet. Sit back and let it take its course. Good luck!
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