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writes:ok my ex and I met each other and went out about 2 years ago october. it was a long distance relationship. she lvied about 100 miles away. we went out for about 4 months then we broke up. then shortly after got back together. and did that a couple times then we got back together and where good for a few months till like may or june a year ago, then my parents made me cease contact with her cause of some stupid mix-up.and about last december we started talking alot again. and we decided that we wanted to go back out again.....I broke up with her a couple months ago cause she was also "going out" with 1 of my friends. she claims everthing I heard and read is a lie. but i doubt it.anyways. even though she has betrayed me several times and I have every right to not even want to talk to her because of how she has treated me.........I still have extreamly strong feelings for her. and I cant seem to be able to get over her. I have tried everything I know of. goin out with other people. not talking to her. havin fun and so on. but I still retain strong feeling for her........and a couple nigts ago. she wanted to talk to me wehn I was at my friends house that she was supposedly cheating on me with. and eventhogh i really did not want to speak with her, I was relieved to hear her voice and I realized I still miss her....?!?any suggestions of how I can get over her at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Zgeek,
You are young, I remember being there and how intense things felt. Your situation is just setting yourself up for heartache, you will suspect things even if they aren't true. If you like this girl, talk to her, hang out with her, but don't stay attached to her. Meet some new girls, meet a lot of new girls, and I guarantee you will start to miss her less.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2008):
Ask your friend if she cheated? You don't seem sure, even though you hang out with the guy and go round his house.
100 miles is a long way so you won't see her very much. Are you sure you haven't made her into this perfect person in your head? Is she really that good in real life?
Keep going out, keep having fun, you will find a girl in your own area who is far better than she is. Either that or just stay single. Relationships are a lot of hassle. If you are single then you can go off and do what ever you want with your life. Why not get a summer job as a camp counsellor or something far far away?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Your situation reminds me of the song by Brad Paisley called; "Letter to me".
At your age there will be lots of things that you will end up going through.
Ultimatly though, you will get through it.
In most of the cases you will need to make your own decisions in the matter.
Granted, you may not always make the correct decisions but in any case you will get through them.
As the song says; "She wasn't right for you and still you feel like there's a knife stick'in outta your back."
Just trust your instincts and make the right choices for YOU.
Give it a chance. You'll see. Check out the link if you have never heard the song.
I hope things work out well for you. Doc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fqtbMHfpXY
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