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Should I tell my dad the secret I've kept for two years?

Q.   this question is about family problems.. 0k.. i have a problem.. when i was growing up my dad had ah gurlfriend and they were together for about 7years and they have been seperated for 2 years now and i dont get along with my dad very good becaus...

A.   3 August 2009: The secrecy surrounding your friendship with your dads ex clearly bothers you; you don't like lying to your dad. I don't know what your relationship is like with your dad but you want to tell him. If you told him do you think he could accept it, he ... (read in full...)

He did it on purpose! I don't want to be pregnant

Q.   i really need help guys! pls. pls. pls..... me and my boyfriend had sex 3x. the first one is the night when i got home then the morning and the last one was when we arrived home back from the mall. the 2x we did it, he withdraw it just in time bef...

A.   2 August 2009: I would suggest that you go to your doctors and get the emergency pill (you can get it from the chemist too). It is most effective the sooner you take it. That should put your mind at ease. If you don't want a family just yet you should consider ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong here? Who can judge this in a person??

Q.   I don't remember what that joke was, but i was judged on my response to it. A friend made this joke and upon my not laughing and saying something like "oh, uhhuh." he decided I am not intuitive. He told this to my husband. But that's an annoying ...

A.   29 July 2009: Thank you. No need to apologise, quarky isn't a bad name, i don't mind. Take care. Quacked... (read in full...)

Does anyone know why I bled so heavily?

Q.   Ive been on the pill of the Microgyn 30 (not sure how you spell it) for 2 packets now. However on both withdrawal bleeds on the placebo break, my 'period' has stopped and then came back after a day. Last night, i was ill and whilst being sick i came ...

A.   29 July 2009: Microgynon30 (think thats how you spell it) upsets the hormones surrounding menstruation, so a side effect of the pill can be what is known as break through bleeding. Basically this is just heavy bleeding because your body is trying to adjust to the ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong here? Who can judge this in a person??

Q.   I don't remember what that joke was, but i was judged on my response to it. A friend made this joke and upon my not laughing and saying something like "oh, uhhuh." he decided I am not intuitive. He told this to my husband. But that's an annoying ...

A.   29 July 2009: Next time this comes up and you get all worked up just think about how his reaction to your non reaction highlights his lack of intuition and ever so slight inferiority when it comes to intelligence lol. Failing then you can always let off steam and ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong here? Who can judge this in a person??

Q.   I don't remember what that joke was, but i was judged on my response to it. A friend made this joke and upon my not laughing and saying something like "oh, uhhuh." he decided I am not intuitive. He told this to my husband. But that's an annoying ...

A.   28 July 2009: First off you are not wrong in anyway shape or form. How can you possibly judge someone in anyway from their reaction to a joke?! It says nothing about you as a person. Its even more strange that this guy judges your intuition by a reaction to his ... (read in full...)

She wants to have sex with no strings but I'm not sure I can do that.

Q.   A girl i met and have been talking to as friends wants to be my first time having sex but doesnt want a relationship and just wants to be friends with benefits at least for the time being. She has said she would possibly date me in the future but i ...

A.   28 July 2009: Stick to your guns. Don't be badgered or forced into sleeping with her just because she thinks that you should. If you always thought of your first time as being romantic and a part of an exclusive relationship then wait so that it can be. As you ... (read in full...)

I can't stop thinking about him!

Q.   I recently went on holiday to Spain and when I was boarding the plane to come back to England there was this guy standing behind us in the queue. He didn't seem to be standing with anyone and when I was talking to my younger sister of 9 about ...

A.   27 July 2009: I don't understand what you're asking! You saw him briefly, he smiled and then you went your seperate ways. Do you know his name, where he lives, his telephone number. Im confused how you would contact him even if that were the right thing to... (read in full...)

Squishing menacing creatures.

Q.   I posted this before: different screen name though. Instead of telling you how it relates to relationships this time, i'd really like to see who all can figure it out. I may get more insite on is relativity than i ever did think of myself. Apri...

A.   25 July 2009: On further reading...maybe i'm way off!... (read in full...)

Feeling quite sad and confused

Q.   Hi there. Lately i don't know what's going on in my head, i've lost a huge sense of direction in my life and i'm feeling down a lot more than usual. I've not long turned 21 years old, and i see everyone else around me moving on in different ways a...

A.   25 July 2009: First things first...stop pressuring yourself. You are not strange, or weird because you are still a virgin; it's not something to be ashamed of. When you do meet the right woman she'll be far happier that you're a virgin than if you had a 'wealth' ... (read in full...)

Squishing menacing creatures.

Q.   I posted this before: different screen name though. Instead of telling you how it relates to relationships this time, i'd really like to see who all can figure it out. I may get more insite on is relativity than i ever did think of myself. Apri...

A.   25 July 2009: I really liked this...very simple but very powerful! I'm not too sure what you are expecting from this but the following is what i got from it: I saw the 'monster bug' as your previous relationships and then ultimately you kill it, revealin... (read in full...)

He doesn't get that I BROKE UP with him! Help!

Q.   Okay, so I ended it with my boyfriend today, and I don't think he knows I'm serious? :/ He keeps saying love you baby in texts and stuff, when I don't say it back he gets upset, eh I just ended it, why would I say it back? :( It's making it pretty ...

A.   25 July 2009: Tell him once more that it's over then stop responding to him. Don't waste your time on him. Clearly this is part of his personality and by giving him your attention you are just feeling this personality. You have to be cruel to be kind sometimes, ... (read in full...)

Am I straight, bi-curious, bi or lesbian? How can I have another lesbian experience?

Q.   [Moderator note: Two questions were combined into one, as they are from the same poster with essentially the same question. FIRST QUESTION: Am I straight, bi-curious, bi or lesbian? Full story: When I was younger, about 6), I had these neigh...

A.   24 July 2009: Well it seems to me that you are extremely curious about women and that an experience with women would help you to assess how you really felt. This does not make you a lesbian, just curious. You say that you had early experiences with your nei... (read in full...)

He cheated, she's pregnant. Now what do I do?

Q.   my boyfriend cheated on me back in april and now this chick is calling me telling me that she is pregnant with his baby. he dont want anything to do with her and she is only talking to me about the situation. what am i suppose to do about this? we ...

A.   24 July 2009: Whether or not your boyfriend wants anything to do with this girl he should be stepping up and at least helping you deal with this. She might be lying but if he slept with her then there is at least a small chance that she isn't lying! If this w... (read in full...)

Was I wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend and I resently had a huge fight because he thinks I am disrespectful to his friends. He has this dumn friend he considers his bff all of a sudden and now he is saying things he never said before. He is pointing out things that are ...

A.   23 July 2009: In short - Yes. Asking someone to choose between you and friends (regardless of sex) is one step towards the end. Don't get me wrong here i understand your point, that you don't like those girls flirting with him but the question is - do you trus... (read in full...)

Any ways to tell my baby's gender before my ultrasound??

Q.   Hello All! Okay this is kind of a silly question and its basically just because Im impatient due to excitement. Im 13 - 14 weeks pregnant and I have an ultrasound on the 14th of august to see how they baby is!!! But it also happens that the doctor ...

A.   23 July 2009: Congratulations! I'd be so excited too if it were me. Here are a few wives tales to keep you occupied before your ultrasound... Are you carrying High or Low?! This one states that if you are carrying low you're having a boy and if you're carryi... (read in full...)

19 and looking to get my tubes tied

Q.   I am currently 19 and looking into getting my tubes tied. I know that this is a risky operation and I can blow my chances of ever having children but I am strongly curious about this option. Does anyone know what the chances are of pregnancy after a ...

A.   23 July 2009: Tubal litigation (having your tubes tied) is surgery that closes off the fallopian tubes. Once the tubes are 'tied' the sperm cannot reach the egg. Tubal reversal is serious surgery! However, it is claimed that 50-80 % may become pregnant after a... (read in full...)

How did you figure out that you were gay or bi?

Q.   I'm really confused right now. I have considered myself straight for my entire life, up until I realized feelings for my friend back in March. She was the only girl I had ever really had feelings for. We recently broke up, but now I can't figure out ...

A.   22 July 2009: I would like to start by saying i have been through this exact thing...when i was 17 i fell in love with my best friend and we forged a relationship and then it fell apart. She was the first woman i ever fancied and until then i hadn't even ... (read in full...)

We all need to move on, but its like we cant....

Q.   My parents split up about a year and a half ago, but the divorce is only being sorted out now. It's exceptionally complicated because they own a business together as well. There are many reasons as to why they split up - they're just two very di...

A.   22 July 2009: Firstly, Having your parents split up is terrible at any age and as you say when you're older you understand so much more. It is very difficult watching the family crumble around you. You say that your mum is confused in terms of what she wan... (read in full...)

Keep in contact or let go?

Q.   I met this girl while on vacation 10months ago. She lives in Colorado and I live in Florida. We hit it off and had a great time. We have spoken everyday since we met. She has visited me twice since I have met her even though she has never flown on a ...

A.   22 July 2009: I'd would stick to your guns and stop this "relationship" in it's tracks. As you have said there are red flags and very worrying behaviour. Asking you to move to Colorado to be with her after a few weeks is very fast. Feelings for a relative... (read in full...)

Why has my boyfriend started calling me names and being horrible?

Q.   hey guys (: ive been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months now, weve generally been really happy together although he is rather prone to mood swings (a couple of times we almost ended the relationship over them). recently we spent a week together...

A.   22 July 2009: I'm sorry that you are in this situation - torn between the guy you got with and what he's become. You need to ask yourself some serious questions; are you happy? Is there a future with this guy? How much are you willing to take? You say that you... (read in full...)

I know we can work things out but he wants to throw in the towel, how do I put things right?

Q.   How can I even attempt to move on with my life without the man I love so much, the father of my child and the man who has been a great stepfather and friend to my other children whom they all have love and respect for? The man who my family also res...

A.   22 July 2009: This man sounds too good to be true so i can understand why it is that you want this to work. He's not only a good father but a good stepfather, and a good partner to you. However, you mentioned that you have trust issues and that he's done with ... (read in full...)

When we met up she was all over me, but now she isnt replying to my texts! What should I do now?

Q.   I have known I have been gay for about a year or so, and I have had gay flings wtc but ive never been in a sexual relationship with a girl. I started talking to a girl (friend of a friend) about two months ago, and we were talking and texting loads. ...

A.   22 July 2009: The answer is to do as you intend. Send the text when she gets back off her holiday saying,"Hope you had a good break. I miss our chats and really want to see you again..." then stop. You need to leave it up to her at that point otherwise you risk ... (read in full...)

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