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*alloutpwnage
writes:Hi I am 17 and my girlfriend is 14 and we are both in high school. She is my first girlfriend and I am her first boyfriend. She recently broke up with me, although we still talk and act like bf/gf because she doesn't want a serious relationship yet. She says she wants to fool around or "meet new people"? What does that intitle? She is going to bang other dudes behind my back? She is sweet girl and we still tell each other that we love each other, but she doesnt want a serious relationship yet and its making me sad. help :(?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): "She says she wants to fool around or "meet new people"? What does that intitle? She is going to bang other dudes behind my back?"
Exactly, and I wouldn't be surprised if her plan is to get knocked up by someone else and then try to pass the kid off as yours.
I suspect a girl that young and that slutty is carrying major baggage, possibly childhood sexual abuse. She's bad news, I'd dump her completely before she ruins your life.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (20 December 2012):
 Fall out pawn,
I see this is one of those new modern breakups where you still love each other and still act like Bf/gf, but you have no commitment.
Let me explain what that means to her and you. She gets to keep the status of having a cool senior boyfriend. She gets to keep you as a back up plan in case anything goes wrong. She gets to flirt with, date or even Bang anyone she wants to.
You can not date, flirt with or smile at anyone who knows her. Your life is on hold. If she doesn't manage a date for prom, you are going to cough up the cash and take her.
Then next year when you are away to college she gets to pick a new senior to use guilt free.
My advice? Start flirting with 18 year olds now. Cut ties. Learn yourself and explain to her that break up means it's over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): What does it mean if a 14 year old kid doesn't want to be in a relationship with a 17 year old (almost adult?) It means she's too young to be in a serious relationship and she knows it. At 14, I highly doubt it means she wants to "bang other dudes" behind your back, unless of course she is already sexually active and doesn't mind putting herself about like a sl*t at that young age.
My advice to you would be to let her go. You'll be 18 (adult) before she is even the legal age of consent (which depending on where you are in the world, is usually sixteen or above). I'm very surprised actually if you haven't already been branded a creep for dating her. Does a 16,17 or even 18+ year old not appeal to your dating appetite?
To add another concept to this situation, if YOU'VE already "Banged" her, then you've actually broken the law and are liable to stand before a court and face charges for underage sex with a minor, and face the consequences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): I say stop giving two shits bout her cause at the end of the day she's still young and immature and she'll do what she wants to regardless of your feelings. Girls toy with guys that way sometimes. It's your first gf, you'll have others... Move on. Meet new people as well, flirt with other girls... Don't allow her to toy with your heart and mind that way. It's just my opinion. You don't need to date someone your age necessarily but date someone who is mature enough and will like you as much as you like them, if not even more. CONCLUSION : Move on!!! :-)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 December 2012):
 She's a CHILD of 14. she may menstruate like a woman and have breasts like a woman but she's still very much a child at 14.
You don' love her and she does not love you, you guys may think you do but you really don't have a clue yet...
Her not wanting a serious relationships is a very wise move on her part.
I doubt she's going to "bang other dudes"
and as for behind your back, she broke up with you so it's not behind your back no matter what she chooses to do with who...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): It means she's 14 and far too young not only for a sexual relationship which is illegal but also far too young to want to settle down into a serious relationship with a 17 year old. Simple as that.
She;s not banging dudes behind your back, you're not in a relationship, she broke up with you nothing no matter how she acts, nothing she is doing is behind your back, she's free to do what she likes, she's a single 14 year old.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 December 2012):
 Honestly if she is 14 she shouldn't be dating so seriously that it leads to sex IMHO.
But yes, basically she doesn't want a GROWN up relationship because.. she ISN'T a grown up. She wants to do whatever "feels" good for her.
IF she still treats you like a BF but is seeing or wanting to see other guys - then she really doesn't have a CLUE what love is. Which really isn't so strange.. she is 14.
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